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Juanita

Juanita Report 17 May 2010 16:35

Why is it, when your find someone who is researching your ancestors, they refuse to even reply to a message. I just cannot understand whey with this attitude they belong to Genes Reunited. Do others find this uncooperative attitude at times?

Wildgoose

Wildgoose Report 17 May 2010 16:38

You might have a bit of a wait for a reply if they're on holiday or sick. They may be mulling over your information and deciding how to word a reply.

It could also be that they've changed email addresses and haven't seen your message.

Is the message box still purple?

Researching:
Northampton/Blisworth Northants/Hinderclay Suffolk

Thelma

Thelma Report 17 May 2010 16:44

Genes is a free site .Many people have their tree here and have no intention of making contact.

Elisabeth

Elisabeth Report 17 May 2010 16:56

I have had a reply this week, to a message I sent last August, so don't give up hope. Sadly, his wasn't the same person I was looking for

Elisabeth

MrDaff

MrDaff Report 17 May 2010 17:05

Maybe they are dead even..... or dying, or seriously ill.... or have someone close who is.

I'll nudge up a thread for you, Juanita, so that you can have a look at the variety of reasons. It is on General, and entitled something like *for those people complaining about others not responding* or something, and I am the Original Poster.

Your membership number indicates you are not a new member... so I imagine you know all that, anyway.

If you opened your account a good long while ago, and have only just started to research properly.... well, you have answered, in part, your own question. Maybe there are a lot of people out there wondering why you aren't answering them...

Maybe you answer every one... I don't know.

But some people really can't... and others just can't be bothered. You might just have to live with that, and get on with those who do want to contact. You cannot force anyone to answer you.

Daff


ps.... we get about three threads like this every week, you know!!

JaneyCanuck

JaneyCanuck Report 17 May 2010 17:13

Phew. There's some time saved, Daff!

Ditto. ;)

Researching:
Please use the "ADD YOUR REPLY" box below to reply. Please DO NOT click "Send Message" and send a private message (unless info is about living people or otherwise sensitive). THANKS!

MrDaff

MrDaff Report 17 May 2010 17:15

Lol Janey........ and I bet you type faster than I do, as well so could have done it in half the time ;¬))

Love

Daff xxxx

Kay????

Kay???? Report 17 May 2010 18:03

The attitude is with people who cant for some reason think outside the box and wonder if there is a very valid reason why someone hasnt replied,

Is theirs an older membership number,if so any possible chance they have moved ISP and with that comes a new email address which they havnt updated to this site,

Could they have had an illness that leaves them incapable of replying,,ie a stroke?


Have they no longer a computer?

Some reply after a few weeks,many months or not ever..so its just a waiting game.,but hopefully a reply will wing its way,in time.