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friend of mine got terminal cancer.results show its spread from where she had mastectomy[she didnt have any treatment for it after the op,through choice].I have been really strong and cheerful for her up to today but when i got in this afternoon and fell to pieces.cant stop blubbing.missed an important appointment as well cos i didnt want to see anyone.hard work being strong...to top it all ,i still cant reply to anyone!!!! Button still on strike

Oh Teresa,

That is so sad......


I am a cancer survivor so I can understand why she never saw fit for treatment as many do the same.
Just go along with her and support her its the only thing that you can do.

Thinking of you both..
Marilyn x

Big {{{HUGS}}} to you Teresa.

My friend and workmate the same age as me has been told her cancer is terminal. Shes now confined to a wheelchair & quite poorly. Can't believe we all went out on our works xmas do five months ago & all was well. Who would have dreamed this would happen, and so fast :o((

I spoke to her sister on Monday & later something small upset me & I cried for England :o((

But still we must put on this supportive face to those who need it even though our own hearts are breaking xx

Thanks for that.Set me off again! xxxAnd button seems ok[for now]

Makes me feel guilty to survive at my age when so many younger with more to experience and live for are terminal. Ive survived cancer three times.

oh no ,you mustnt feel guilty.you have family/friends that treasure you.All you survivors give the precious support to others in my position.

Teresa,
CARRY ON BLUBBING, its the the only way to cope with this,
i know exactly what you are going through, its so hard i know, but you will find the inner strength to support your friend, although it will rip you apart.
My OH Died two years ago next month, i knew he was dying six months before he actually died, on reflection i dont know how i coped, i just did, he died in my arms. please God you wont have to go through that.
Cry whenever you feel like it, dont apologise for doing so, it shows what a caring and loving person you are.
I just pretended that my OH was was going to get better and discussed the future- planned holidays-what he was going to do with the greenhouse the following year etc, tried to keep everthing normal, whether it was right-i dont know, who does?
It was just my way of coping with it.
Just be there for your friend,I'm sure it will be a comfort to her,
give her a hug, hold her hand.
Maybe these words dont mean to much at the moment, but if you do everything you can now, you may find it easier to cope later, knowing that everything you did, has made your friend know how much she has been loved.
My thoughts are with you
Jean x

Thanks for that.BIG HUG. My friend always calls me her" cheerful " visitor as we only talk about cheerful stuff,our animal rescuing days ,etc.She has sorted all her affairs out and we are trying to get her transferred into a local,rather excellent hospice.She was flirting with the doctors today and was a pleasure to see her so jolly.I will always have a very colourful album of our time together in my heart.

god,im off again!!! but thanks for support.although i dont know anyone ,i would like you all to know that its great to know that there are people like you all that can offer a word or two of empathy .xxx

Really sorry to hear that teresa xxxx

It's a dreadful time for you all. I had the same thing in 2008 when I got news that a good friend I had sort of lost contact with was terminally ill. I only heard a few weeks before she died. I and another old friend I contacted, went to visit when we could, we laughed and tried to stay cheerful but to see her sometimes weeping with the pain, was heartbreaking, she was coming up to 59 and died a few days after that birthday. Her sister in law said our visits helped keep her mind off things, but I always expected we would be old dears together and it's so sad that she will be missing from our group.

I hope your friend has lots of love surrounding her and that you also have support when you aren't with her.
There is usually someone around on here if you need an ear or a shoulder.

Lizx

I'm so sorry about your friend Teresa and I know it must be very painful, but I think that maybe one day you will be pleased that you have had this time together. It's a chance to let her know how you feel about her.

Last year I suddenly got a phone call from the husband of my good friend of many years to tell me that she had died that morning. I hadn't heard from her for about 10 days and had been planning to ring her that evening. She had taken ill 3 days earlier and he hadn't told me because he said that she didn't want visitors to the hospital. I found it very difficult to come to terms with the fact that I didn't know and wasn't able to see her.

You are doing very well - cry in private but laugh with her. I know she will be appreciating it.

Know how you feel Teresa daughters ex father in law had prostate cancer refused treatment he passed away monday terribley sad

Teresa I have sent you a PM,