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I have had my grandson for 2 and 1/2 years and he is now 14.My son and d/i/l said they were broke at christmas so would owe him a xmas pressie.(he is my sons child)he has had his birthday and yet they are still broke and not even a birthday card.My son lets d/i/l have all the money.D/i/l asked me the other day if she bought there child her birthday pressie could she leave it round my house.(sons second family)i reminded her that my son still owed his son a xmas and a birthday pressie.D/i/l has told my grandaughter because i mentioned it my grandson can now wait.I feel like making my grandaughter wait for her pressie now?I know 2 wrongs dont make a right but i feel so much for grandson that does not have anyone to fight his corner? Annie

I think you need to speak to your son about how you are feeling. Im assuming dau in law is not the mother of your grandson but they both have a daughter together?
It isnt fair and your son should be the one to buy,send a card and present

That is sad Annie and really not fair of your son to treat his son like that. The trouble is your grandson, his son is fourteen and will remember this and resent his father for it. Have a word with your son, not your DiL who is shutting his son out in favour of their daughter.

Hi

Look as we have all seen your grandson is better of with you and its now showing that hes better of without them to ....sorry coz I know its your son .....

But in his life you have been the only positive person always being there ......

Dont worry about the so called prezzies he is owed!!! worry that one day your grandson WILL see his parents for their inability to care at all and your grandson will smile with pride that you are his rock
Give the other child her prezzie ...its not her fault and one day she may need you to

I am so sad for this boy.He does not know where his mother is and has never heard from her since i have had him.His other grandparents sent £10 with his uncle to meet him on his birthday.No one can be bothered with this boy.Why??He is such a lovely boy and treats me with so much respect.Why are adults so selfish. Annie

Hi
I agree with Quinsgran you should talk to your son about it and tell him how you are feeling
I dont think there is any excuse for not getting him at least a card if he couldnt afford a present at the time
but it must be awful for your grandson that his dad hasnt bothered about his xmas or birthday its not right that his new family should get and not him
when i remarried my husband had 2 children to his first wife and i had 2 children to my first husband but i wouldnt dream of treating any of them diffrent they all get the same
PP x

Hi Annie, maybe you could suggest to your son that they spend less on their daughter and get something for his son too, it's not fair the way they are behaving, but I suppose with the daughter being younger she might not understand not having a pressie due to lack of funds. I do think your son is being unfair tho in letting this woman rule the roost and not finding money for his son but getting the daughter a gift, probably something expensive too. He needs to put his foot down and treat the lad right, you have taken over his responsibility towards the boy for a long time and done a wonderful job, but it's let his dad off the hook and it's time your son faced up to his responsibilities and did the right thing.

I think under the circumstances I would just get the granddaughter a small present and explain why to your son, that looking after his son takes a lot of money and you can't do as much for his daughter. Might just make him think but at least the daughter isn't losing out completely on a gift from you. It's not her fault her mother isn't the sort to take on a stepson well, or that her father doesn't face up to responsibility.

Hope you are feeling better now, what happened re the high bp ?

Lizxx