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I've sent a message to someone and they haven't replied yet (sent 29.3.10). Does their name still appear if they no longer subscribe to Genes Reunited? Or is it just the fact that they no longer look at the site?
Ann

A thread has been nudged up for you to read with several explanations as to why somebody may not have replied. But don't give up, some people have received replies after 2 years. It's a funny old hobby this!!

Hi David, are you still looking for a reason as to why some people don't respond to your messages?

Or are you a different David!!

Or was that on a different thread.

Or maybe an entirely different person.

Oh I do apologise in advance if I am mistaken, and you are a new person who is thoroughly bewildered by how all this works.

And just in case you do need to know, somewhere on these boards is all the information you will ever need to know about why people do not respond to messages.

I will try and find it for you and post it here. Providing of course said thread has not been deleted.

Wahhhhhhhhhh!! I can't find it!!

I didn't post on it because I was so, well let's just say I didn't post on it. Anyone know if it is still around?? The one I'm talking about is the mutual agreement thread where the boys decided GR users were unkind for not replying to their messages.

I have just counted my unopened sent messages and I have 16 over the past year. I just wait with hope, especially 6 of them, but I am very much encouraged by what older members say, that it is sometimes worth the wait.

They were probably henpecked to death!!

Putting aside for the moment, the problem of people who do not open messages maybe because of illness/stress/busyness etc. I can't begin to tell you how many members don't reply to the message I send out about how to find the replies on their thread. Many of my messages are opened within a very short space of time but just not responded to.

Some aren't opened at all even though I send them out within 24 hours of the query being posted. I do wonder if some people see the message in their email inbox and think it's an advert from GR and delete it!!


Do you think I should David a message on how to reply on here???

Cx.

Thanks folks my envelopes are still purple so .......

Don't give up, David. My daughter has only just returned from Spain after the flying ban. It could be the people you wrote to have been stranded somewhere.

I have had replies to messages months later. In fact, in some cases I had completely forgotten the questions! LOL

Don't you just love it when you receive a reply and you have absolutely no idea why you messaged the person. You have to backtrack through the pages hoping to find that person's name, quickly read the original message, then send a reply as though you all the time knew what they were talking about.

Hi AuntySherlock, no need to backtract through loads of pages, simply click on their name in their reply to you and on the next screen, scrolling down, you will see any correspondence you have had with them.


My problem is, that I send the same message out to everyone and occasionally someone thinks I am the one doing the research and gives me more of their family history. My coward's way out is to ask them to post this material onto their thread so that someone can help them!

When they say they have already replied, I do a quick check on Advanced search putting in their name and any name they mention and see what that brings up. Usually they mean they have sent a pm to a helper and, of course, I don't know that.

I've only been tempted to be 'short' with someone two or three times and, even then, I take deep breaths, count to ten, stay polite and retain my dignity!

Cx.

Hi Cynthia

Thank you for the info on how to avoid backtracking to find a contacts previous messages.

I didn't know how to do that and spent ages trawling though pages and pages looking for their name.

Thanks again

Wendy x

You're welcome :)

Cx

I echo those sentiments. I think I did find that feature once but I know I had forgotten about it because I spent quite a while the other day searching, searching, searching.

By the way, the little white envelope is not working again. I had two messages when I went to try out your theory. You are therefore to be doubly thanked.

I would have missed the messages for quite a while.

My pleasure AuntyS. That little white envelope is a complete pain at the moment. I think the best thing is to keep checking it when you're on here to make sure you don't miss out on a reply.......it may be exciting!! lol Cx.