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I have always done thank yous - even when boys were small -i did ones on the computer with pictures. Some people do say it's the only thank you they get !!

one of my pet hates - people who don't thank! I've already bought Thank You notes for both kids. They will write a few every day until they are done. Jamie also has to write birthday ones to give to his mates at school the day they go back. However, I have never been thanked by any child or parent for a gift we've given (after they've opened it, they say thanks as you hand it over) which I find shocking. I tell my kids that if they can't be bothered to thank people, then those same folks won't be bothered to send a gift next year. From what you others have written here, I'm not lying!
Maz. XX

I used to get my son to write or phone thank yous for birthday and Christmas presents etc unless the person had handed it to him and he had opened it in front of them in which case he would have said thank you then, and they would have seen his delight, or dismay lol

I stopped bothering with my nephew as he never said thank you and to be honest, once he got out to work, he was probably better off than me! We have never been close, as my s.i.l. and brother haven't encouraged it, they didn't encourage him to be close with my parents even.

I do find it harder to get my son to do anything these days, which saddens me, he has stopped bothering to send his Nanna in Malta cards and I don't suppose he sent one to his father there either, don't know if he got a card or present this year, there was one sent last year because we had not long been back from a visit so he was fresh in their minds! As he doesn't live with me, it is difficult to get him to do these things, altho he knows it would be a bad move if he ever forgot or didn't bother to get me a card for whatever occasion.

Haven't even had a card from my youngest brother this year - suppose I better call and see if he is ok, but they don't make a lot of effort.

I didn't send a gift to my son's ex's little boy this year either as I put a lot of effort into making him a photo album of pics taken when he spent time with me etc and enclosed some money last year, and not a call, letter, nothing so didn't bother this year. He has so much anyway as both sets of grandparents divorced and so 4 lots of gifts there to start with, all taken for granted.

I think it is very sad tho, but I suppose the more people who don't expect it the less the thank yous will happen. Standards of politeness have slipped so far down I think they will never be the norm again, what a shame!
LIzx

I didn't get any gifts as a child from any one but my parents, and a plastic purse from my grandparents with chocolate money in it. So said thank you to them, there and then. So I didn't learn the lesson to write a letter. But I picked it up. and asked my kids to write a letter of thanks to people. My daughter is 26 and still writes, but it is harder to get my son (23)to do the same.

JILL , I`m the same -wrote letters on Boxing Day with notelets I got for Xmas

It's funny - I sort of don't expect it these days. Only when I post presents - like to my nephew's children - and even then I don't expect a thank you, just an acknowledgement that they've arrived safely.

Odd really. When I was a child we were "encouraged" to sit down and write our thank you letters ....

Jill

IT'S ONLY MANNERS TO THANK PEOPLE.

MY KIDS WERE ALWAYS MADE TO PHONE OR WRITE TO THANK THE PERSON, AND MY DAUGHTER MAKES THE BOYS DO THE SAME.

THEY EVEN SAY 'THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME NANNY' WHEN THEY LEAVE TO GO HOME.

MANNERS MAKETH THE MAN!!

Who thinks you should thank people for their gifts? My mother took my nieces and nephew`s presents to their houses . I asked her tonight if she had forgotten , no, . I said well that`s funny -not one of them has phoned to say they have got them -over £100 spent on them in total. What did you give them she asked -SLANKETS for big nieces -yes they tried them on on Xmas Day, cookery book for niece -oh yes she phoned and told her about it but not thanked me. Mad is an understatement!!!
Ros xx