General Chat

Thanks very much all, this is informative reading. Sorry to hear your troubles Bambi, I am sure you will find something some where.
Will make sure I am using maiden names where possible, does make sense now.
Thanks again! :)
Good night.

nite bambi - take care.

Jill

well gonna go bed now got to be up at 5.30 said night to guys on xmas thread ages ago

no me and dad not close again complicated he won't talk about her

But if you're in touch with your dad - can't he give you a bit more info than that? Maybe they weren't happy but there must have been something between them at some stage ...

i know absolutely nothing apart from she didn't hav good life with dad wot a lovely person she was thats it

Oh that's awful bambi!

Is there any chance of you finding someone who knew your mum? Have you looked for any friends of hers on Friends Reunited? Do you know anything about her past - her school, her jobs, anything?

Take care pet.

Jill

mums side only know her mums name she was adopted its complicated i don't even know anything bout my mum she died from overdose got death cert today age 26 i was only 4 months old

No worries Bambi - it gets easier. Could be worth visiting your local library and checking out their family history books. There are quite a selection out there and it's worth having a read to see how others do things. Most of them seem to be written by "professionals" whereas the bulk of us on here are amateurs. Always worth getting the official line on these things, plus there will be all sorts of useful info in the books too.

I do know what you mean about death records - they don't make sense otherwise. And, I don't know about others but I follow all the lines in my family - women included. Some genealogists only follow the male line and just seem to ignore the women. Personally, I find that a bit odd.

I mean, you know who your mother is, and her mother, and her mother - but how can anyone be 100% sure of the male line? I trust the female line a bit more than the male line.

Does that make sense?

unfortunately i'm new a this an have not studied geneology

Women in family history should, as Jill said, always be entered under their maiden names.

In early genealogy people rarely stayed married to the same person for their whole lives. If you ever get to do any medieval genealogy you will see that death from battle, illness or childbirth meant many marriages for many people. So on family trees females always keep their birth names no matter how many husbands they may later have.

Sue

i was thinking of death records which would have married name on

Techincally, you enter the maiden name. On the tree that you can keep offline (I use PAF) there is a space for "married name" which helps.

If most people enter women by their maiden names that's where the matches will come from. I am quite suspicious of any tree I see that has the wife entered under her married name. It makes me think that the researcher is either not taking it seriously or does not care about the female lines.

Also, what if she marries more than once? Then what would you do? One of my trollopes of a gr gr grandmother married twice and nearly married three times. I'm still interested in her - no matter who she married as she is my gr gr grandmother. So in effect I have no option but to enter her under her maiden name. It's logical.

Jill

hows things going

your welcome

anytime x

I figured :) I think the key is to not take life to seriously, take me for instance, I SHOULD be cleaning the tile cement off from round my bath, however instead I am searching through a rather addictive site looking for long lost relatives :) MUCH more fun! Thanks again :)

glad we made you laugh Kirsty lol we are like a double act

its nice to give you laugh not havin much luck elsewhere

He he, well I am still slightly confused but will enter maiden names for time being! Cheers :) Gave me a laugh anyway! ;)