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would you let your 14yr old daughter

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Kate

Kate Report 22 Oct 2008 18:50

I think I'd only be happy with it if at least one parent was somewhere on hand. I remember when I was 15, going to a friend's sleepover at a camping barn out in the countryside - I assumed her parents would be staying over (as they had done the previous year) but they went home.

Then my mum rang us, established that the parents weren't there and came to collect me. I was annoyed at the time but looking back I would have done the same thing. If there had been an emergency, there was no one amongst us who was even old enough to drive (I was the oldest one there and I was coming up to 16, I think).

But you never know what they'd get up to (says me, who's "only" 24!) and also, unsupervised, I remember my friends playing stuff like Truth or Dare and I shudder to think what they'd dare each other to do in a mixed sex group. And although everybody thinks they're "mature" at 14/15/16, it's only when you look back a few years later you realise you're not.

Cyprus

Cyprus Report 22 Oct 2008 18:46

Glad you've said no Karen --boys here are 'on heat' at 11 yr old,testonerone levels are unbelievable --
Could it be the weather or lack of something else profitable/energy consuming/free to do in their spare time?

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ Report 22 Oct 2008 18:37

11 yr old is about to hijack my laptop so wont be able to answer anymore replies for a while,



back in a bit,


Karen x

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ Report 22 Oct 2008 18:27

its good to hear others views,


i've said no(not said to dad yet but know his answer will be the same)and daughter is ok with that after i said why we wouldn't want her to go but just thought it'd be interesting to see what others thought,

thanks,

Karen x

Kay????

Kay???? Report 22 Oct 2008 18:24

In view of the fact these parents are not know to your family or possibly your daughter, inner feeling would tell me no at this time....,

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ Report 22 Oct 2008 18:21

i don't think its a matter of trusting my daughter...she has a boyfriend but he's not going but its the boy whos party it is......he has a girlfriend and another mum has seen him and the girl doing stuff in a public park!!!!!!


Karen x

CrunchyNuTTer

CrunchyNuTTer Report 22 Oct 2008 18:20

As long as parents are supervising then yes i have let my son sleep over.
EDIT. If i didn't like the boy/girl then i wouldnt let my son sleep
over.
trust your instincts.

xxx

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ Report 22 Oct 2008 18:19

thanks,


daughter has asked to go to one......don't know the parents at all and don't like the boy so have said no........our daughter is very mature but i think teenage kids and hormones and i suspect there may be drink.

personally i can't understand the parents wanting to have a mixed sleepover,i wouldn't....too risky,



Karen x

Dianne

Dianne Report 22 Oct 2008 18:18

Yes I would. The answer, believe it or not, is to put them all in the same room, in individual sleeping bags. Nobody gets up to anything untoward then in front of the others. This is how my friend does it with her daughter and her mates and it has always worked.

Dianne xx

Haribo

Haribo Report 22 Oct 2008 18:18

Just as Straykittem says, It depends on circumstances and sleeping arrangements etc. If your daughter goes to a mixed sex school and happens to have friends who are male, why assume that they could/would get up to anything that they shouldnt? If you have a close mother/daughter relationship and you know and trust your daughter then I can't see what the problem is.

Lorraine

Lorraine Report 22 Oct 2008 18:16

remembering what i got up to at 14

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 22 Oct 2008 18:15

Ooooooo I really don't know.

I don't have kids that age..........It would depend massively on how well I knew the parents I guess ! xx

Sue from Wakefield

Sue from Wakefield Report 22 Oct 2008 18:13

I wouldn't feel comfortable about it...so no

Sue
xx

StrayKitten

StrayKitten Report 22 Oct 2008 18:13

i dont no depends how mature she is
and whos party it is
and what the sleepign arrangments were lol

xxxx

Sue

Sue Report 22 Oct 2008 18:09

No me neither.

Sue x

ஐ+*¨^¨*+e+*¨^¨*+ஐ Mildred Honkinbottom

ஐ+*¨^¨*+e+*¨^¨*+ஐ Mildred Honkinbottom Report 22 Oct 2008 18:09

Yes

Well, my son actually.(13)

But the girls mother is a teacher in my sons school :o))

Ann

Ann Report 22 Oct 2008 18:08

no

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ Report 22 Oct 2008 18:07

.................................................................................................
go to a party for halloween and sleep over if there were a mixture of boys and girls approx 13-15yrs old?


Karen x