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Taff, means so much! Thnks hun. (((hug))) xxx

Malcs hun, thnk u ((((((((hugs)))))) xxxxxx

Oh Kerry, sitting here, just happy that your mum's last days were happy.

Just can't get my head around it - why, why would anyone treat another like this. Just want to pick them all up, take them somewhere safe where it will never happen again.

Crying - this thread is gonna keep running and running and running ....

My heart goes out to you all. ((((hugs)))) x

marilyn if you go to the mental health board they are above anyone they can help there are nursing homes that cater for your mum just go above there heads and keep fighting you can also go to acast they are people that fight on your behalf for free they do any cases my uncle died this year in hospital through neglect and they are helping us they have got the hospital to admit it was there fault now its going to court with out thier help we would not of got this far i dont want anyone to go through what we have please keep fighting kind regards kerry

WELL DONE SHANI!!!!!!!
and yes I,me shouting!!LOL
good on you girl!!!
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so pleased you won.............. :))))))))))))
my nan was attacked in her care home, but because she had dementia, we couldnt prove what she said was true, (she said the lady i was friends with came into her room and pushed her over.... which broke her hip)but all we could do was change the care home to another.... at least her last days were happy ones............
take care, xxxxxxxxxxxx

Well done SS .........((((((((HUGS)))))))))) xxxxxx


Malcolm.

Moy, Joan ((((hugs)))) thnx hun!

Eileen,

Thanks hun.((hug))

thank you so so much for sharing, must have been hard to.

We all do things when we're young, I believe that when you make a mistake (and who hasn't), you learn from it - you have. I feel sure there must be many today in same situation. (((hug))) You had no control over what happened, you were being bullied hun.

Thanks for advice for Marilyn. Must be similar to POVA for mental health care, everyone answers to someone.

Marilyn, we're here for you hun.

Luvsyall. ((((hugs)))) xxx

SS so pleased things have been sorted ((((((hugs))))))xxx

hey hun, thats great news punches air with you

X FANTASTIC X

Not been 'on air' looking at other threads than my usual, so missed all your troubles Shani.
Have just read thread right through - afraid it rings just too many bells. I worked in Care for many years, and so has one of my daughters, who still does. It is just amazing what people will get away with.
When I was quite young I was on nights with a very scarey woman, who was well known for being a neighbourhood troublemaker. We had a lady who was very heavy and we were only supposed to use the hoist and with two of us. I was with another old lady, and I heard the scarey woman go into the next room. She dragged the heavy lady, who fell and broke her hip. I was told not to 'talk, if I knew what was good for me' The scarey Carer reported that the old lady had tried to get out of bed on her own. I knew it wasn't true, but am ashamed to say I kept quiet. I was young, I would not do it now, but her kids went to the same school as my kids.................
My daughter and I have seen many things, old people having soup put in front of them, then taken away, with the words, 'oh didn't you want that' when the person could not hold a spoon steady, or even see the bowl. Old people with memory loss, they just wanted to talk about a loved husband/wife who had died years back. Of course they did not remember this. Instead of letting them talk, carers would constantly remind them their loved one was dead, and so they cried and mourned them all over again. General roughness when handling, thinking that they were 'awkward on purpose', shouting, lack of respect, calling everyone 'Granny' even when they were a spinster, you could go on for ever.

Marilyn
Everyone in the above postings is right, you/we have to complain and complain and complain............. you can film things now on mobile 'phones and get evidence that way. Go to the local papers,.......... that makes them sit up and take notice.
((((((((((((((Hugs to you all))))))))))))))))))
and specially strengthening thoughts to Shani and Marilyn and your families.

Eileen
birth name

Bless, thanks GI!

'Me in C' thanks hun. That was my thought - leave thread running to help people, once everyone knows we've won (only fair as they've been so wonderful), I can remove the 'We've won bit'? That way, anyone needing help will know where to go.

As for the 'real' world - this is not the first time we've met it and there must be thousands of people out there hurting because their loved ones are being abused, neglected ...

Anyone got thoughts? All thoughts valued.

Shimmering--so glad you feel you have justice,well done!!
But what are we all going to do to prevent this situation arising again?

Hi Shani.............this is fantastic news...........


YIPEE............................!!!


Glynisxxx

Don't know how you all feel, but have bookmarked thread as feel so many people in similar situations who need comfort, help advice.

Gonna nudge it everyday, hope you don't mind.

xxx

Oh Marilyn, there has to be someone to help you. Will pm later. ((((hugs)))) x

SS - I am really pleased that everything is wrorking out for you and your family.

Lots of love and (((((((((hugs))))))) to you all

Julie XX

Oh sooo pleased that you have got somewhere
at last they took mums zimmer away because they said she was using it as a weapon although frail its amazing how much strength she has
l think that l will just have to wait it out
lv already complained once to the hospital about no soap in the toilets if l complain again they might not like it. there are no homes in broadstairs who will take her lve been told by drs she will have to have EMI with nursing as she wont co operate most of the time they have made her far worse in there its not just her illness as they seem to think every time l go in shes on about coming home l took in a special cushion that our local nurse got for her to sit on to stop any sores but shes never on it in fact it seems to have disappeared like most things in there sometimes she got someone elses clothes on.
one day l cought a nurse putting one of her woolies on someone else and when l said it was mums he argued with me l told him lve washed it often enough to know what it looks like!! and it had her name in it!! l didnt go in but phoned l feel so rough with this fluey thing that iv got clerk said she was ok

Ah, thnks Carla.

I, ShimmeringS, hereby present you all with the ShimmeringS medal for supporting, advising, caring, sharing, just being there, pm'ing me.

It gives me great pleasure to 'pin' these medals on each and every one of you!


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Lol, Shimmering S gives you all a marshmallow clap. Clapping type motion as says, "1.2.3, 1.2.3., Well done and thank you all, you are absolutely brill!!!"

Congratulations I am so pleased for you & your brother.
NHS waste of space when we have to be watchdogs,you should be vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvPROUD! :))

To all my friends and family
On GR
You need to know
That you are
The finest, most caring,
Sharing
Kindest, supportive 'peeps'
I have ever had the chance to meet.
I'm so 'touched' by you all
That I truly weep
Tears of happiness
And joy
OH BOY!!!

Punches hand in air, "YES!!!"

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