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Well done Pauline, on taking that decision. I am sure you will wonder how you ever found time to go to work and it is certainly time to put yourself first for a change. Make the most of the time to do all the things you put off before and enjoy your family and friends around you. As you say time does ease the pain a little, but if you are miserable at work it won't help so you are best out of it. Later if you miss a bit of a routine you could always volunteer for some charity work or something that suited your needs and time available.
Lots of luck on your new road...
and whinge all you like on here, that's what friends are for.
love
Lizxx

Sorry that you are feeling so down Pauline.

I know exactly what you mean about hospitals. You may have seen my thread about my dad dying last week. When he was in hospital my father in law was in the same ward. He's home now, but I'm dreading him going back in again, don't think I will be able to visit him on the same ward my dad died on.


Sending you a big ((((((((((hug))))))))))

All best wishes Pauline - feel sure you have done the right thing.

Take care

Love & Cuddles just for you
Steph xxx

Just seen your thread pauline,


Sending you lots of love from me {{{{{{{{{{{{ xxxxxxxxxxxxxx}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}


Caz xxxx

Dear Pauline

You will manage. Consider working part time if you want to later on when you feel a little stronger. You are in an enviable position to choose. Good luck.

Tina xxx




Tina xxxxx

All the very best to you Pauline.

Tina x

Pauline I do feel for you I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mum last September and it was 2 years ago yesterday that I lost my dad. Some days I feel so low I don't want to get out of bed, but work helps me, it takes my mind off things for a bit.

You must do what you feel is best for you and I wish you all the luck (((((hugs))))).

Sue

Pauline, I am sure you have done the right thing,
each day at a time, enjoy your retirement, I wish you every blessing and good fortune.

Jean x

Thank you everybody for your kind words and support. I feel that I need time for me now, and after a long talk with my OH, I have decided to give a month's notice at work. Our mortgage is finished, and although the money I earn is useful, we can easily manage without it. I really don't need the stress of people moaning in my ear that they haven't been paid etc. I feel like telling them to get a life! Also my supervisor is more interested in her affair with a Portuguese bloke 15 years her junior to really care about me, or what I am going through. Time to become a housewife, spend more time with the grandchildren, go to local coffee mornings, be able to have tea ready when OH gets home from work.

I can feel the relief already having made the decision, and in my own way it will give me time to come to terms with losing Mum as well.

I feel that I'm not in control of my own life at the moment, and I need to get some sense of order again. I understand that things will never be the same now that Mum has gone, and I know from losing my Dad 20 years ago that time does ease the pain. I think that being at home I can just be me, and if I want a miserable day, I can have one without thinking about how it might affect other people.

Thanks again for your support.

PP
xx

Pauline you are not a whinger - but putting down how you feel I think is good for you far better than letting it eat away inside. Good luck for hospital appointment and mega big ((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))
Love Mary xx

Hi Pauline. You're grieving - these things take time. I don't think I really grieved for my dad until a couple of years after he died. In the interim I was running around trying to be brave for my mum and everyone else. Then one day I just started crying myself. Take each day at a time - you'll get through it. People will say you'll get over it in time - you don't. Things fade and you'll start remembering all of the good things and forgetting about the sadness of losing your mum. Almost 15 years on, I still shed a tear for dad - the silliest thing sparks it off, like a song or a phrase, or just reminiscing about things. It never goes away, but it does get easier. You concentrate on your own health, but if you feel like a cry - have one! AL

Sending you the biggest of (((((((HUGS))))))))

Try to have a good rest and keep posting we are all here for you.

Linda xx

No-one could call you a whinger Pauline. It's still early days for you after the huge loss of your mum.
Take care of yourself
Mau xxx

Pauline, maybe it feels a bit soon for your sis to take the pics down and that is why you feel sad. An acquaintance got the house my Mum died in, which had been my family home for most of my life, we moved in when it was a brand new council house and my parents didn't buy it, so it had to be handed back after 45 years. It was so hard to say goodbye to the house but the memories came with me, and when I went back to see my friend after she moved in she had changed it so much, it didn't feel like our house any longer.
Because you have a family member still there it makes it harder to cope with while things are still raw.

I had the UTI a couple of times recently but am now taking cranberry tablets from H and B and hope they will help me resist further problems. It does bring you down tho so hope the antibiotics will work and you will soon feel better.

Good luck with the appointment.
Lizxx

Hi Pauline, you're being much too hard on yourself, so please be kinder to yourself.
Here's a (((BIG HUG))) from Devon, so not too far to travel! lol
Take care, you.
x

Whinger???
You are entitled to a sad day when your mother goes.
In fact, you are entitled to as many as it takes.

(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))
for you PP.

things will get better.

Deanna X

pauline, it will take time

((((((((HUGS)))))))

chris x

Pauline. Sorry to read this thread. It must have been so difficult for you to go your Mums house, but even worse when you noticed all her photos had been removed.
Hope your UTI clears soon, and good luck for Wednesday, and sending you positive thoughts.

Vicky xx

Pauline, we love you. Please don´t expect too much from yourself at this time. How you feel at the moment is neither negative or positive, it just IS. Allow yourself these feelings and flow with them. Please post here anytime, I´m off line for 3 weeks but I know there is always someone here for you to talk to. Chica xx

Dear Pauline

You are allowed to whinge if you want. Please try and take some comfort from the memories of your Mum.

Love & Cuddles just for you
Steph xxx