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so sorry to hear of your loss pauline, my heart goes out to you with a big huggle.

sueby xxx

Pauline,
You talk about saying a few words at the funeral.
When my mum died in 2004,I wrote down about 4 pages of my mum's character and where she'd been brought up etc.
One bit I put in was that...my mother was always right.....and the vicar that I had given some facts and stories about her said this...and a little voice from one of her friends said....that's our Grace........and everyone could hear her!
Writing these memories helped me to come to terms with the fact that she wasn't suffering anymore,and as the vicar said,let it be a celebration of her life.

In time you will remember the good times.

Some extra (((hugs)))for you.
Brenda x x

Pauline,
i didnt cry when i lost my mum
but some months down the line
someone said something about my mum to me
and i just cried and cried .
You will cry when your ready to cry
sending you some ((((((((hugs ))))))))))
take care .
Hazelx

((((hugs))))

Hugs for you Pauline

Pauline
Lots of love to you and your family.
I've not had to face this yet and am so scared of it when the time comes.
You heart must be aching.
Wishing you the strength and serenity to get through the next few weeks.
God Bless
tricia xx

BIG ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))

know just how you feel we are all here when you need us.

Love Linda x

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For you Pauline, thinking of you,


Caz xxx

Thinking of you Pauline now and over the next few days.

Carolyn

Pauline

Please feel free to talk any time you wish, there are so many people on here to listen and help.
I don't put much on the boards but do read and offer my (((hugs))) and xxx to all who need them.
May your guardian angel be with you all.

Frances xxx

Thanks everybody for your support and words of wisdom. I can't explain how I'm feeling today. Did some housework this morning (unheard of for me - lol). Had a visit from our daughter and family all the way from over the road. Good to have a play with our 2 little grand daughters, especially Molly who is such a little character - not 3 until May, and totally oblivious to all that is going on.

My sister heard from the coroner's court yesterday to say that the post mortem has been done, but Mum will not be released to the funeral directors until Monday at the earliest, just in case they need to re-examine her. I will be glad when this has all come to an end. It is all so clinical and impersonal.

In the meantime, I have been sorting out music to be played at the crematorium for the committal. One of the last trips Mum had was to see Starlight Express in Plymouth. She loved it so much, so we are using the actual song as we go in. For the committal itself, we are using an orchestral piece of music from Dances With Wolves. When we leave, we have found a piece sung by Jonathan Ansell (of G4 fame) called Down to the River to Pray. It is a really lovely track, and I hope will lift us all a bit as we leave.

At the chapel service prior to that we are starting with All Things Bright and Beautiful, a favourite for Mum, followed by Kum Ba Ya - a favourite of my late brother Douglas, and we thought that was very fitting. To end we are having Abide With Me which was played at Dad's funeral 20 years ago. I feel compelled to say a few words at the funeral, so hope that I will be composed enough on the day to do that. My sister doesn't feel able to do that. I have a few ideas in my head as to what I will say - just hope it all comes across ok.

I am so glad that I have all you good people here to share my thoughts with, and who care enough to read and respond. I dare say this will not be the last you have heard from me over the coming days and weeks.

Pauline

sending hugs*****************sorry for your loss

so sorry to hear of your loss (((((hugs))))))

Pauline loads of hugs, hope you are feeling a little better this morning
Janetx

Pauline,

Know how you feel,but try to relax and maybe the tears will come to release the tension you have.

Sending you some big((((((hugs))))))

Brenda x x

(((hugs)))

xx

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

Mega ((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))) on the way.

Lindy xx

Thinking of you Pauline..

((((((((hugs))))))))

Oh Pauline..........................I was the same when Dad died.

I rushed around being all strong and looking after Mum..........................a few weeks down the line I sobbed for hours over a broken mug!

Grief affects all of us so differently..

Take good care of yourself.................the time between the death and funeral of our loved ones is exhausting.

Take each hour as it comes and here's a huge ((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))))) from me.

xx