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Hi Anita
you go girl
45 is not old in this day and age!!
Remember in the last century people left there families and went to the other side of the world and it was forever,nowadays a quick flight and you can visit,from anywhere.
She will come around.
My dad did a similar thing to my sister a couple of years ago after her divorce which surprised all of us as he had always encouraged us to see the world and we had all lived away for years on end.
we put it down to his age(hes 80)now she lives 200 miles away shes happy and hes fine.
Regards Tania

Anita, I know exactly how your Mum feels and I really feel for her. However, when I was in the same situation with my son I said to him "go for it with a big smile on your face and your head held high". I will say the same to you. By the way, we have lovely holidays with our son.
Sue xx

Live your own life Anita, and if this is what you want ----------- go for it.


Cx

Go for it girl before it's to late you will regret it. if you dont. Just promise to mail and let me know about the local talent!!!


Big hugs

xxxx

Do it Anita,

She can undo the knot in her knickers whilst you are unpacking and decorating over there!

Then she will be more comfortable travelling to see you.

You don't have to be geographically close to be close. My children have phoned their aunt tonight to sing happy birthday to her. She wasn't in (hopefully in some swanky restaurant) but I know that she will appreciate it when she picks the message up.

And my daughter spent three quarters of an hour writing a letter wishing her a happy birthday and told me that she knows her auntie will write a special letter back just to her.

Miles are nothing - it is how you love someone that counts. And you do love each other, it will just need to be shown a bit differently from now on.

Get on with it, it'll be reet!

Janey

I hear what you are saying sweetheart.

Thank you ............... love & hugs to you xxx

Hi Anita


i have been following your threads, I am glad you have finally found your wings.



Hun please dont ever end up like me and look back and have so many regrets. Life is so very short and you never know whats going to happen from one day to the next. Do it before it is too late, i wish I had more time : - ((

Grab this brilliant opportunity and live life to the full, dont answer to anyone and most of all be happy, your Mum will come round.

Take care sweetie and enjoy this new journey

Lots of love and happiness


Janey xx

You have to make your own decisions, Anita. Unfortunately mothers are good at using emotional blackmail, mine was. 20 years ago I should have moved to New Zealand, she threatened suicide. I never forgave her or her brother. She was still my mother and I still loved her and looked after her when she was ill.

Life may be too short to fall out with your mother, but it is also too short not to do what you want to do. It is your life and not your mother's.

Rosalind

Anita, please don't take this the wrong way, but reading this thread what did i see...... Afriend telling you life is too short don't fall out with your mum mum's are precious no one knows what will happen tommorow.

Lot's of love and lots of luck.

i just catching up on this

i see howie wrote to you mcanne

he and mum supported us wen i married and stayed with them till our daughter was born , so shed be born in this country, it gave OH time to sort out a home for us,
when daughter was 6 weeks old we moved to germany to be a little family, such a wrench,
id never been away from home and was 22, i was new wife and mother, it was so hard, i hated most of my time in germany, and after 18 months of us traveling back and fore or mam and dad traveling to us we moved back to britain,
mum i can honestly say let me know that she wouldnt be happy till we were back on british soil
they missed us being close and seeing their grandaughter everyday , but they used to drive all way to germany to see us and babysit for us to go out to army dos,
weve got good memories,
ive got lots of sad memories too, of the tears,
and feel guilty to this day ,
but like dad says you have to do wot you got the chance to do,
its your life, he had dreams that he didnt take up,
i know he often wished him and mum had travelled,

your mam will see its also a new opening for her,
shell come round
dont go on the arguement tho
make up with her
xx

I wish you all the best Anita, I really quite envy you for having the courage.

Keep us posted, we will be with you all the way there and when you get there.

Tina x

I honestly can sympathise with your mum Anita, but speaking as a parent, I brought my own two kids up to be independent. I'm sure your mum did the same.

Yes she will be sad and upset to see you go, but she has to listen to you and accept whatever decision you come to.

As parents, we do eventually have to let go.

right get words wrong again
all i said was i understood
how mum felt an dont leave
till sunday to talk
love gwen
now crawling away to hide
from the world xxxxxxx

I was going to put my own comments on here but Sheila has summed it up perfectly.

Yes it's hard, as I Mum I can see that, my kids don't live that close to me that they are on my doorstep all the time, nor do they want to. Yes I miss them badly at times, wishing I could see them more, but as Sheila said, I brought them up to be decent independent citizens able to make their own way in the big wide world, not to stay behind, turn down their opportunities for my sake.

And from that point of view I can easily see where you are coming from McAnne. But its YOUR life, and you should live it the way you want and where you want. With what you are doing your mum should realise you are a credit to her.

Go for it girl. The only other thing I have to add is, no matter what friction there may be between you now, please don't let Mothers day go by without something. That really will break her heart. Trust me I know.

Anita,

Gald you have stayed positive and see a wider world out there,,,,,,,,,,and hope it turns your life around to great heights,,,,,,,,,,new house,new lfe


,,,,,,,,,,,,,new man,???)))


Go get em girl,,!!!!!!

Anita,

Well done lass. You do what you feel is right before it is too late.

You are just at the right age to up sticks and live as you want....old enough to know a dream when you see and feel it and young enough to follow it.

Believe me your Mum will come round when she knows you are not going to change your mind because she has thrown a hissy fit.

Life is for living.

Go girl go.

Jean x.

HI

We are a very close family all live within a few miles of each other and see each other often, we even go on holiday together, I love it like that my mum is best friend.

Quite a few years ago my nan and grandad moved about 200 miles away, my mum was devastated and wouldnt visit my nan before she left, not because she was angry but she was so upset.

They soon made up and we spent quite a few holidays with them they loved where they had moved to and stayed there for quite a few years.

Enjoy your move but i hope you sort things out with your mum before you go.

What a difficult decision to make, at 45 you are not being a wild child and just disappearing, I guess you must have told your mum what you were doing. It will have been hard for her to accept, I would hate it if my lads were moving a long way from me but I would respect their wishes and make the best of it. A brave decision for you, I wish you much happiness
Janet

Ive reared 4 children and have backed them in everything that they have wanted to do,which has included moving to other parts of the country.I have made my decisions and so I think they should be allowed to make theirs,after all you only go this way once.


Maddyxx

Sheila - thank you - you are spot on with your comments ......... xx