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Hi Susan, Hi Joy, Paul's parents are such lovely people, they try hard to go on as best they can. Their daughter is close to them but doesn't live at home, but they must miss Paul so much. I have never dared ask but can only think what it was like if that birthday card arrived the following day, maybe in the same post as sympathy cards.

The young Norwich lad's Mum was on tv last week appealing for anyone who knew anything to come forward. It must be awful for the parents of who ever that body belongs to, to know their loved one has been in the cold river for so long.
Lizx

That is so sad Liz,

Thoughts go out to the parents.

Susan
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so very sad hun,thoughts and prayers for his family.xxx

I haven't been able to catch our local news today so don't know if the body has been identified. Pound to a penny it is Gary tho, sadly.

Five years ago last Wednesday, early hours of the 6th February, a young man in his 20s drowned in the same river after a night out, our fairly newly built clubland is by the riverside. Paul had drunk a lot but was sober enough to have rung his girlfriend at uni (he was at uni here in Norwich doing teacher training). They were talking when she heard the phone being put down and a sound as tho he walked a few steps and might have vomited. He probably walked to the edge of the river to vomit not wanting to do it on the pavement and overbalanced. The next call the girl got a little while later was from the Police. People came out to try and help Paul when they heard him shouting but because of the poor lighting and high river level, and being a very cold night, he couldn't see and reach the ladders at the edge of the river, and sadly he drowned. I was furious at another loss of life, as there had been at least two more lads before Paul suffered the same fate, so I lobbied the council and local mps etc to get more safety rails installed etc. The local police put me in touch with Paul's family from Shrewsbury and we worked together to get safety measures which the council had ignored on a Rospa report they commisioned when the nightclubs and bars were built, installed. Now in that area there are special lights under the edge of the riverside so if anyone is in the water they can see the ladders. Also more railings have been installed. I met Paul's lovely family, his Mum, Dad, sister and girlfriend, at his inquest. It was harrowing to hear the witnesses, those who had heard his cries and come out to try to help, trying to find a long branch or pole to hold out to him, trying to tell him where the ladders were etc. Such a waste of a marvellous young life, Paul was training to be an R.E. teacher and had great potential. He wasn't a binge drinker, but had met with a friend who had popped over from Peterboro on the train as in the area, and they had had a few drinks too many and lost contact with each other in the crowded bar. His friend was found later in the city centre drunk and disorientated, so the Police took him into a cell for the night. His briefcase had been found with Paul, with the phone on top and that is when the Police realised the tragic connection and had to break the bad news to him that his best mate since childhood had gone. That lad feels guilty still that had he not arranged to meet Paul that night, he might still be alive, he wouldn't have gone out by the river and been drinking.
It is so sad that yet again a young life has gone.
I am still in touch with Paul's parents, they send me a card every Christmas and cards when they travel America, visiting all the places Paul visited on his gap year and staying with the people Paul stayed with. Paul's Mum's birthday is on the 7th February. I often wonder if he had already put her card in the post before his life ended that night.

Lizx

That is so tragic. Rest in peace who ever you are!!!! and my thoughts are with Gary's parents.

jude sarf wales xx

Thoughts and prayers for the family.
xx

love and prayers to family lilymoon

My thoughts are with this family. How awful - I dread to think, I have 18 and a 19 year old grandsons.


Ann
Glos

So tragic....I hope that at least the recovery of a body will bring closure to some poor family and allow the grieving to begin

sending love and prayers to the family how awful
Rachxx

sending thoughts and prayers to the young mans family i cant imagine what there going thru
Dutchxx

Sending my love and prayers to this family.

Jean x

A friend of ours drowned at sea last year................from the time he went missing until his body was recovered was hell for his whole family.

My thoughts and prayers are with this lads family too.

xx

In mid January an 18 year old lad was out with his pals but left them to go home while they went on to a nightclub. He was seen on cctv heading homewards but had to walk past the river which in 2003 claimed a young man a bit worse for wear after a night out, and had already claimed two others in a similar way. Gary was 18, a twin, and came from a loving family. He was in work and had no reason to go missing, but his family have been waiting for news of him as he never reached home. His mum was on tv appealing for help in finding him, just last week.
Yesterday the body of a man was found further down the river. It is very probably Gary's body. I can only imagine how his family and friends must be feeling, at least while there was no news, they had hope. His bosses had offered £5000 reward for information leading to his whereabouts.

If this is not Gary's body, then I hope he is found soon, and the identity of the person is soon given so his family can be notified. Knowing our river well, it is tho very probably poor Gary and I can only hope he died quickly - so awful to think of him struggling alone in the dark cold river.
Rest in peace, who ever you are.

Lizx