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ohh Pat .

As it's been said 30 miles is nothing.

My mum would get a train/bus and get there and she is 78 in May...

Sending you lots of love.

Pat x

((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) for you Pat, so sorry about your mums attitude it just proves the saying
you cant choose your family.
hope you have a great day
Love Jackie

Pat

I have no idea how old you are or your Mum is but my mum is 75.
The point I am trying to make is. My Mum is lazy and expects me to make such arrangements for her. I am sorry but I agree with you . You have enough on your plate at the moment organisng your wedding and really there is nothing to stop her doing it herself. Could she be hinting for Uncle to be invited to the day bit and that way he can take her ?

I was gutted last year when I was 40 and my Mum said she wont be going to my party. I told her stright that she managed it for the others when they was 40. When it was my son's engagement party she expect HIM to go and get her. I said you will get a taxi and it will cost you about £10.00 which is nothing to my Mum but nope she wasn't having any of it. In the end my sister drove but that ment she couldn't have a drink.

Back to my party I said to her if you don't want to go then don't by then I thought it will only spoil my night is she wanting to go home . Once she has had the buffett that is.

Good luck anyway xxxx

Does she and your dad get on?

I know that if it was my mother she'd travel the world to be there and she doesn't like flying. My aunt and uncle travelled over 300miles to come to my brothers wedding and they'd probably do the same for mine.

Nothing would stop mum and dad being there on their children's special day. Hell my brother got married for the second time in South Africa, if they'd told us about it before hand my mum would have found a way to be there. She was incredibly hurt when she found out later about it and even though it's a year now, I don't think she's over the fact that the wife's eldest son's in-laws were there but she wasn't. There excuse was they wanted a quiet wedding.

I'm gutted for you. 30 miles is nothing especially with all the options she has. Have you told your sister? I was thinking maybe she might confront your mum over it and tell her how upset you are.

Difficult.

But perhaps you could suggest that you and she go out for a girlie shopping expedition to get outfits......choose her hat or something.
You could then say how much you are looking forward to her being with you on the day (yes you might have to lie a bit!).

Perhaps you could ask your sister to offer to take her too.

Not worth getting upset about or risking it spoiling things.

Sue
x

Maggie,
She might be, But if she wanted to come, Surley she'd ask around if there was anyone who could take her?
She's not the shy retiring type! lol

Pat

Maybe she's waiting for your sister to offer!!!
Could you ask your sister to offer?

Mind you, if I were you and that was my mother's attitude, I think I'd rather not have her there!!!

maggie

Uggers,
i wont let it be spoilt, I have waited 14 years for this! lol

xx

Well as long as it ain't gonna spoil anything for you, tell her you'll see her on the night:)) Can't wait:))))

Maddie,
No her health is fine.
My dad on the other hand (They are divorced), Has a broken hip, a heart problem and is in hospital at the moment with MRSA. I know damn well he will be by my side whatever, even if he had to crawl there.

Caz,
Thanks
Pat

Sally,
I think you're right about being chauffered. I just feel like doing nothing and letting her get on with it. I just think how will I explain her not being there to my hubbys family. I'd be embarrased if I was her.

Uggers,
I won't feel bad on the day, It'll be the happiest day of my life whatever. I wont let anyone spoil it for us. Besides, I'll see you there, that'll cheer me up!
;-)

xx

Im so sorry pat, you must feel so rejected.

I so hope you can still enjoy your very special day,


Caz xxxx

Oh hun mine is at least 200 miles from my dad and it hasnt even entered my head he wont come!!!

Is your mum in ill health?

Chris,
She could afford the train, taxi fares.
She wouldn't have to though if she asked my sister to take her!

Pat

I bet you are. And normally I'd feel like saying b******* to her but you don't want anything to spoil yr day so it might be worth you putting in the extra effort now to stop her from making you feel bad on the day. x

I would go along with what she says......then if she is trying to make a point then it is lost......I think she will find some way of getting to you......seems to me like she wants to be chauffered (sp) from door to door.....

Other than that Pat, perhaps invite your Uncle for the day and she can come with him....

You must feel devasted. 30 miles is nothing unless she is really poorly off and the train fair/ taxi is out of her reach. You'll have to talk to her.
All the best
Chris

Hi Uggers,
Maggie does have a point, But to be honest im at the 'sod her' stage at the moment!

xx

Pat, Maggie has a point - couldn't you arrange it all so someone (other than yr oh!) could bring her. I know it shouldn't be like that but it would make yr day better.

Pat :0((
Can only give you a hug from me and Ged xxxxxxxx