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have same problem...how have you got on??sheila north somerset

A little addon to Jeanette 16 jan

I spent 3 months trying to trace what I thought was my only living relly that I hadnt seen for 40 years .
I came across a link on ancestry and sent msg .
They do it anonymously direct to other party's email addy .All either of you know is the 2 names used on site .
I was lucky , got a reply and 1st line was" if u r son of (parents names)"

mmm a tuff one,but maybe you could send email to ask if she knows who her father is,and you found her address while you were researching but was'nt sure how or if she fitted into the family.
good luck,find away,as other wise you will always wonder if?

Yep she is not a child but you could try the standard I am looking for a rellie with a name like yours & go from there.
NORCAP may be able to give you some general advice
as to how to approach the situation.

Good luck Marie, hope it all gets sorted out for you and your family

Hi Marie
i would just like to say i joined this site in july last year looking for my dad all i had was his name and address we lived at in 1965 within ten mins of being on here i found out i had 2 half sisters and 1 half brother i have since met my brother and 1 of my sisters and there ( and my ) familys and i am over the moon they are older than me and wrer able to give me lots of info on my dad and also photos they knew about me but i did not know about them but i am so glad we found eachother i feel like i belong they have excepted me as i am part of the family it has took me 42 years but now we are all intoutch we will stay that way . Hope all goes well
Alyson xx

Marie,

I think you do need to find out a bit more about your half sister before you proceed, is there anyway of finding out if she knows about your father.
Check with Joan or search yourself and see if her mother was either married at the time or married later, if could be that she does not know about your father and calls another person Dad.
Whatever, you do you need to be sensitive about all this.... but I wish you the Best of Luck, with whatever you decide !

Sheila

Yes Kathryn,,it was and if you have no conception as regards adoption or half siblings like some of us have then you really wont be able to offer any yourself would you.............?

Joan will be the one to help if anyone can - she'll natter for England given half a chance.

Good on you - sound advice given, listened to and acted upon - result all round

Thanks to all of you for advice, and apologies for any confusion, did not mean to cause any trouble. I have been on the phone to Joan and her advice was extremely helpful, she is a good kind person!

Thanks again,

Maria

Dont forget too that the mother of the supposed daughter might have also been married and her husband didnt know about the affair.

He might have brought up the daughter as his own.

I dont see how it would cause confusion,,,,,,,,and I dont see how sound advise was or has been given by said Kathryn who self admits having NO experience in these matters, so her time is not being wasted!!,,,,,and has no given right to tell other members to delete their theads,!


To Maria,
Cold call email wouldnt be the correct way which Im glad you feel right about,,plus they may not be the right person ,only the same name
,also more proof would be needed before any contact move was taken,so many things to take into concideration,like her mother,and or parents
,but on the plus side she may have knowledge of her biological father,,perhaps he should be the one concidering taking the first steps,?

dont see how it would, only to people with half a brain, but there u go, i am not getting into a slagging match about it, i was only trying to help,

I think Kath was concerned that the information being added on two different threads/boards could become confusing.

dont ou just hate it when people think they know it all, get a life girl,

kathryn B

you want to learn to grow up, you do gooder lol, now go away nicely,

Calm down girls.

Chill out

Joan Allen is a good bet - she will not only advise you what to doo, but will be able to make sure your research is watertight before proceeding.

She does make a charge, but its a reasonable one

M.David

Have you looked for a birth reg in your Mothers maiden name?
Maybe she had the baby before she married?

Gerri x

Know all too well of the conflict of feelings. Have just found a photograph of my mother holding a baby about 6 months old. Problem is, the baby was named "my baby" Jean, and the photograph was taken before I was born.

There are no birth registrations so, who was she, and where did she go to, and why? I no longer have anyone left alive to ask.