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I feel really guilty asking for more help when everyone helped so much in my last quest, but I'm up against a brick wall with this one and it will be a miracle if there are any replies...
bear with me with this one.
I have a Thomas Andrew Rhoades POB Kirton in Lindsey Lincolnshire. DOB March 1879 - DOD 01/09/1963 these dates I know to be true as I have his death certificate.
My dad's mum was called Maud Mary Rhoades (she wasn't married) DOB 16/04/1901 DOD March 1988
In the 1891 census I found Thomas was living with his grandparents William DOB 03/10/1822 DOD 1909
and Bessey (maiden name unknown) c1830.
and a Harry Rhoades which I'm assuming was his brother as there are only a couple of years between them.
I know this is a lot to ask and I have honestly tried myself for hours on end to try and find out anything about this whole family.
Thomas A
Maud Mary
Harry
William
Bessey
You see there is a possibility that Thomas is really my grandfather on my dad's side but it was only a rumour as we kids knew him as our great uncle but he is named on my dad's wedding certificate as his father but on my dad's birth certificate father's name is blank the other rumour is that Thomas and Maud were brother and sister!!! So that could be why everything was hush hush..
Would really appreciate any help on this one guys and gals.
Linda

There is this marriage at about the right time and place for William Rhoades:-

Name: William Rhoades
Year of Registration: 1849
Quarter of Registration: Apr-May-Jun
District: Boston
County: Lincolnshire
Volume: 14
Page: 338

Of the other 7 people on the page there is an Elizabeth Mountain. Could that be Bessie?

I wouldn't read too much into the fact that your father named his uncle as his father on his marriage certificate. Illegitimate children often either made up a father's name or used another relative's name, i.e. uncle grandfather brother etc. so as to look more respectable in front of their in-laws.

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Here he is in 1881

1881 England Census
about Tom A. Rhodes
Name: Tom A. Rhodes
Age: 2
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1879
Relation: Grandson
Gender: Male
Where born: Kirton, Lincoln, England

Civil Parish: Kirton in Lindsey
County/Island: Lincolnshire
Country: England

Education:

Employment status:

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Registration district: Glanford Brigg
Sub-registration district: Brigg
ED, institution, or vessel: 3
Neighbors: View others on page
Household Members:
Name Age
Elizabeth Rhodes 51
Harriet Rhodes 13 daughter
Tom A. Rhodes 2 grandson
William Rhodes 58

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1861

1861 England Census
about Harriet Rhoades
Name: Harriet Rhoades
Age: 2
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1859
Relation: Daughter
Father's Name: William
Mother's Name: Elizabeth
Gender: Female
Where born: Brigg, Lincolnshire, England

Civil Parish: Scawby and Sturton
County/Island: Lincolnshire
Country: England

Street address:

Occupation:

Condition as to marriage:

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Registration district: Glanford Brigg
Sub-registration district: Brigg
ED, institution, or vessel: 6
Neighbors: View others on page
Household schedule number: 111
Household Members:
Name Age
Elizabeth Rhoades 30
Harriet Rhoades 2
William Rhoades 39 coachwheeler
William Rhoades 6 Mo

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1871

1871 England Census
about William Rhodes
Name: William Rhodes
Age: 47
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1824
Relation: Head
Spouse's Name: Elizabeth
Gender: Male
Where born: Hemenby, Lincolnshire, England

Civil Parish: Kirton
Ecclesiastical parish: St Andrew
County/Island: Lincolnshire
Country: England

Street address:

Occupation:

Condition as to marriage:

Disability:

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Registration district: Glanford Brigg
Sub-registration district: Brigg
ED, institution, or vessel: 2
Neighbors: View others on page
Household schedule number: 214
Household Members:
Name Age
Allanrea Rhodes 7
Clara Rhodes 6 months
Elizabeth Rhodes 41
George Rhodes 5
Harriott Rhodes 3
Mary Rhodes 12
Son S Rhodes 10
William Rhodes 47
William Rhodes 13

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I think Harriet from 1861 must have died and Harriet no 2 was born after.
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Thomas's Birth:
Births Mar 1879 (>99%)
Rhoades Tom Andrew Glanford B. 7a 715

Not sure if this is Harry in 1901

1901 England Census
about Geo Harry Rhodes
Name: Geo Harry Rhodes
Age: 20
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1881
Relation: Boarder
Gender: Male
Where born: Kirton in Lindsey, Lincolnshire, England

Civil Parish: Mexborough
Ecclesiastical parish: Mexborough St John the Baptist
Town: Mexborough
County/Island: Yorkshire
Country: England

Street address:

Occupation:

Condition as to marriage:

Education:

Employment status:

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Registration district: Doncaster
Sub-registration district: Barmbrough
ED, institution, or vessel: 10
Neighbors: View others on page
Household schedule number: 57
Household Members:
Name Age
Edmee Foster 20
Florence B Foster 25
Sarah Foster 53
Vincent Foster 1
John Murphy 30
Geo Harry Rhodes 20

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No sign of Tom in 1901?

Linda

thomas 1901
Thomas Rhodes
Age: 22
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1879
Relation: Boarder
Gender: Male
Where born: Kirton in Lindsey, Lincolnshire, England

Civil Parish: Cleatham
Ecclesiastical parish: Manton St Hibald
Town: Cleatham
County/Island: Lincolnshire
Country: England

Street address:

Occupation:

Condition as to marriage:

Education:

Employment status: View Image

Registration district: Glanford Brigg
Sub-registration district: Brigg
ED, institution, or vessel: 4
Neighbors: View others on page
Household schedule number: 19
Household Members: Name Age
Charlotte Page 37
Charlotte Page 7
Edith Page 4
Elizabeth A Page 14
John Page 12
Mary Page 10
Medley Page 6
Samuel Page 4 months
William Page 44
William Page 8
Thomas Rhodes 22

This will be the family in 1861 not the one given as the birth places match the later censuses

William Rhoads
Age: 37
Estimated Birth Year: abt 1824
Relation: Head
Spouse's Name: Elizabeth
Gender: Male
Where born: Emmenby, Lincolnshire, England

Civil Parish: Kirton in Lindsey
County/Island: Lincolnshire


Registration district: Glanford Brigg
Sub-registration district: Brigg
ED, institution, or vessel: 2
Neighbors: View others on page
Household schedule number: 188
Household Members: Name Age
Ann Rhoads 7
Elizabeth Rhoads 30
Elizabeth Rhoads 10
Louisa Rhoads 5
Mary J Rhoads 2
Samuel Rhoads 8
Thomas Rhoads 2 Mo
William Rhoads 37
William Rhoads 4


Source Citation: Class: RG9; Piece: 2397; Folio: 30; Page: 34; GSU roll: 542965.

Gives plenty of possibles for Tom's parent.

Andy

Baptism from the BVRI

RHODES, Maud Mary Christening
Gender: Female
Birth Date: 16 Apr 1901
Christening Date: 19 May 1901 Recorded in: Glanford Brigg, Lincolnshire, England
Father: Tom Rhodes
Mother: Elizabeth

Cannot find any suitable marriage.

Andy

Thank you everyone, you've given me family members I didn't know I had.
I just wish we could have found out more about Thomas Andrew as he lived with my family before I was born and died when I was about 8 so can still remember him and him whacking my brother across the back of his legs with his cane...lol
thanks again, Linda