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I recently spent two hours at Hastings library, trawling through 1851, 1861 and 1871 census returns for other people. None of my own relatives came from Sussex. I posted the results, and of the four requests only two seem to have looked at them. Later, I offered a few 1837 credits. Again, only one of the three people who asked for lookups checked the results. So what is the point? Jan.

Hi Jan, Maybe people just look and forget to say thankyou, which is really bad manners after you have spent so much time looking, I always say thankyou it does not cost anything. But just lately my emails have been coming back so anyone who has done a look up for me and I have not thanked them that is why... Sue

But I put the results here on this Board, clearly marked, and kept bringing them up to the top of the Board again. I've given up now, but certainly won't be doing any more stints at Hastings library. Jan.

It is disappointing sometimes but think of the ones you have made all the difference to in their research.

Hi Jan, It doesn't take much to say thanks for help received. I always try to and as I sometimes put questions to several people I find it easier to write down the name of the person offering the look-up and also what number of replies they have had. this helps me to see if any more answers have been put on the board. Apart from that, and in case I missed anyone, I put a general thank you on the board the other day. Please be assured yours and everyone elses help is much appreciated. Jenny

Hi Jan, As said by Jo in Yarm,think of the ones you have helped,I know I have had problems with my emails too,even sent a thankyou twice just to make sure to someone. Its the same with anything it only takes a few to spoil it. Keep up the good work, regards trish

Jan There is a big problem with emails being sent via GC. I have sent a few Thank you's which haven't been recieved. Also when you send an email via them, you usually get a confirmation, today I sent 2 Thank you's, one I got a confirmation of the other I didn't, so will try again. This could be the reason, that people haven't thanked you, although maybe they have and you just haven't recieved it. I'm sure most people are appreciative, some sadly arn't, but it's them that have the problem, perhaps they were misunderstood as children!!!! (well thats usually the reason isn't it?) Don't let it put you off helping others, if you enjoy it. Lynda

hi Jan...I know what you mean as since I have subscribed to Ancestry I have offered look-ups when I have the time. I estimate that 10% of members say thankyou.....however, the people that do respond are so nice it makes it worthwhile anyway! It is interesting that many of the requests are from members who seem to rely only on others but rarely say thankyou or acknowledge the effort someone else has made for them

Hi Jan - if I was one of the wretches, then I apologise most profusely. Unfortunately had problems lately with my computer at home, and have had to wait until I got to work to access the site - regrettably the boss also insists that I work when I get there - can you believe it? so I haven't had as much time to spend on this site as usual. (lol) I do remember asking you for assistance and I think I replied, but if I didnt please accept my apology, your efforts were very much appreciated. Jacqui

Hi Jan - I have just checked back through the threads and found where I asked for your assistance. Apparently, as I was the last person to ask you, you didnt have time to get to my query - I still thank you though for the thought, and apologise as apparently I didnt respond immediately. Jacqui

Hi Jan I want to say thank you if you looked up results for me. Trouble is I have a brain like a sieve and a lot of probs to go with it but I may well have forgotton. Thanks to everyone else. Lauretta

Dear Jan I completely agree with you. It must be really upsetting if you do all that work for people and then don't get any reply. I do wonder if there is sometimes a problem with the computer system, though; I have thanked people on the board and e-mailed them personally, and sometimes it seems that they haven't received these messages. I am so grateful to people who have helped me on here, and I would hate to upset anyone by it seeming that I haven't taken the trouble to say thank you; if anyone has helped me and not received thanks, please accept my apologies - gremlins in the e-mail must be at work. Best wishes Lysianne

I have also spent time willingly looking up records for people on Gc as well as elsewhere, and i have found with a few exceptions that people on GC are far more likely to say thankyou than anywhere else....what a great bunch you all are. Two exceptions i have found is one where the post i put up disappeared before the lady concerned was able to spot it, and she has now contacted me and i am trying to sort it all out again....the moral being save everything you look up for other people til you know they have your reply,(i do normally but somehow had a brainstorm with that one!!) and the other one i kept nudgeing the thread but after 10 days gave up, the lady in question had a really common name so i cant email her direct and live in hope she will send me an email saying 'where is my ******lookup', lol. I really enjoy searching through the old records but some lookups that seem simple can take a good few hours to solve, so a simple Thankyou really does make it worthwhile, lets hope a few forgetful people dont spoil it for all the people who are pleased for some help. I have been really grateful for all the help i have had from members here, and once again thankyou to you all. Yvette

Hi Just wondered if like me they thought that like the genforum site you where notified by e-mail if someone had responded to your resquest. it was pure chance I realised that this did not happen and you had to keep checking. Some people I know are just palin rude, but hopefully it is because they don't realise you need to check. Maureen

JAN I DO THINK IT IS VERY RUDE TO NOT GET A THANKS PEOPLE SHOULD PUT A THREAD UP SAYING A BIG THANKS FOR YOUR TIME AND EFFORT,IT IS VERY OFF PUTTING BUT PLEASE THINK OF THE ONES WHO DO SAY THANKS,AND TO THE PEOPLE WHO DONT PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SAY A SMALL THANKS TO THE PEOPLE WHO DO HELP IT TAKES NO TIME AT ALL AND MEANS SO MUCH TO THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE GIVEN THEIR TIME AND EFFORT TO LOOK UP THESE THINGS FOR US ,ISABEL

Jan I was one of the ones that DID say thank you! But I know how you feel, when I've contacted others and had no reply - it's just sheer BAD MANNERS! Once again a BIG THANK YOU Chris