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Phillip, I may not be the first to do it, but I've PMed you to offer a bit more help. If you can provide a little more info, it might be possible to do some more searching and find something that could help you. Obviously it's sensitive, so if you want to send it to me privately I'll be happy to look around a little more.

thanks dea for your further reply. i can confirm that my son was born in oxford u.k. many thanks phillip.

Hi again Phillip,

Yes - If you give up now you will really be letting him down !!

Keep looking - one day you will find him and get your reward - a son, and maybe grandchildren??!!

Keep at it!!!

Dea x

P.S,. - following Janey' s post - could you confirrm that this is Oxford U.K. ?

Dea x

thank you all for your latest messages and for your support. thank you dea and yes i have tried to contact his mother but after 38 years of keeping this a secret from me for whatever reason i am afraid i have met with little success. i will keep searching for i feel if i take the easy option and give up the search i will have let him down as well as my self. i just need him to know that i would not have deserted him if only i had known and of course his mother which was difficult circumstances beyond both our control. just wish i knew. many thanks once again dear friends. best wishes phillip clark.

Here's an idea, which might not apply of course. I once used it to trace the son of a friend, born early 1970s, estranged from his wife and access refused to the son (for, in my opinion, totally outrageous reasons).

The father had an unusual occupation. I figured the son might have followed a similar occupation. He did. I found him on a University website, getting an award for the best in his year in that field.

A bit of undercover research found him. They are now reunited.

Pot luck I suppose, but try anything.

As Dea says, don't give up.

Phillip,

Don't ever give up !

He is out there somewhere and one day he will be looking for you.!!

Dea x

P.S.. - Can you get in touch with his mother??

Dea x

my thanks to you all for your replies and for your advice. it is so difficult not knowing my sons adoptive name and with such little info to go on. you reach a low point but know you cannot give up for his sake i must keep going no matter what. thank you all for your kindness it is giving me strength through this difficult time.

Hi Phillip.

JaneyCanucks suggestion is a good one. Put your own Family tree on here......your name...his Mothers name.....any other names which you think might trigger a connection.....

My adopted Nephew found his birth Mum this way (my Sister) She was staying at mine the night he e.mailed me!

The very best of luck...NEVER give up

Gerri x

Uh ... Oxford, Queensland?

Time for another of those threads about being clear on the geography ...?


Have PMed Phillip about returning to the thread to see replies.

are you a member of face book theres only a hand full of males one in australis about the same age as you say your son is , good luck

Hi Philip

Are you sure he would have been registered as Philip Carrington? Maybe his mother married or gave the name of a different father, perhaps someone she was living with at the time. Or your own surname, as he is your son.

Was his mother's maiden name Carrington?

I too wish you luck - I have a son Philip born 1967 - know how you must be feeling

There just doesn't seem to be a birth in the GRO index (at Ancestry) that matches those details for name, place and date.

As well as searching trees here, Phillip, it would be a good idea to put up your own tree with him and yourself (and maybe his mother?) in it. That way if he searches at this site some day he will find you.

Don't forget to keep your email address up to date in your "account details" -- or use a permanent online account like Gmail for this purpose.

Can't help Philip but I just wanted to wish you luck !!

Dea x

hi there Philip - have you looked in Search Trees top of this page for any connections on this site?

Ann X

i am trying to find my son phillip carrington who was born either late 1971 or early 1972 in the oxford area and was adopted shortly after birth. i have no info on his adopted name or his whereabouts. i have only found out recently about him and am trying to locate him to reassure him that i would never had deserted him if i had been aware of the situation. any info would be greatly appreciated. phillip clark.