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I am trying to trace my birth Mother. Her name when I was born was Susan Jane McKee, although I know she got married a few months after my birth. She lived in 11 Southwell Road, Bangor, Co. Down, and was 18 (I think) when I was born. As far as I know, she was training to be a nurse, and got pregnant with me by accident, to a member of the Armed Forces, posted in Belfast. She named me Emma Jane McKee, I was born in Ards Hospital on the 30th October 1973, and she gave me up for adoption shortly afterwards. I realise that she may be in a place in her life where she feels meeting me is not a positive step, and the last thing I would wish to do is to disrupt her life in any way. Most of all, I would like her to know, somehow, that I am a happy and healthy 30 year old now. That I understand and respect the choices she made, and that I hope she has found happiness and contentment in her life also. I would very much appreciate any help from anyone who has any ideas on how I could further my search for her...