General Chat

Dave please do not feel guilty about posting your problems. We are here for all of us and that includes you. We are here to listen. Nobody's problems are considered trivial.

Diana had some good advice for you there. When I worked I had a friend who was agraphobic. She would phone me to say she was leaving a certain place at a certain time and would know I was walking towards her, she could then leave wherever she was without panicking knowing she was coming towards me. I was her 'safe haven'. We then continued together to home or work or wherever. That was in the 50s.

Ann
Glos

Ann
Glos

Carole, I do write short lists.

I do them one room at a time.... and if there is a particularly BIG job in the room, i don't add it to the list.
It is something 'my head' decides to do when all around me looks ... dare I say Normal(?)

Dave , I take it you have problems leaving the house and going amongst people?
Am I right then?

If I am Dave... as a sufferer, please allow me to give you a little tip.
It will sound stupid to most people, but not to me.

IF you have to go by yourself......

Go out, look straight ahead.... and one step after the other..... until you get there.
Once there you will find a friend... and that is the start.
Told you it sounds stupid, but I've done it.... not easy, but so rewarding when you have done it.
Good luck Dave, have a lovely day, you are the most important person in YOUR LIFE.... look after DAVE.

Deanna X

Dave - now stop getting up tight about going to the club - you well know that it will be fine and you're getting wound up about absolutely nothing - so stop right now and instead think of actually enjoying yourself. If you come back on here and say you didn't have a good time after all I shall bombard you with pm's and you would not want that - be afraid, be very afraid!!!!!



Ann XXXXX

Dear Gail when you look in, please know we care. Come back as soon as you can.
Remember that words of attack say MUCH more about the person who wrote them than they do about YOU.
maxiMary
HugsXXXXX

Ann G, moan as much as you want, this is what were here for. You've lost your security blanket of nurses and doctors, but you have one in your hubby and the district nurse at your gp, if you feel unsure of anything just give her a ring. Even a talk over the phone will put your mind at rest, you will be shaky for a few days, that's why you must rest, my surgeon told me it is because your body thinks it has been mutilated when I asked him about being shaky.
Just think, while you are resting you can come on here any time you want and talk to all us lovely peeps lol. Always someone about.

Caz xx

Y Caz, I think that,even though I was only in for 24 hours, being in hospital is like being covered by a security blanket. If you cough somebody is there, somebody always asks how you are feeling,you know you are as safe as you can be. When you are home you are apprehensive i suppose. But I think the anaesthetic stays in your system for about a week, depending how much you had. I am definitely better than I was yesterday, but still feel a bit shaky, no energy. I am eating OK, maybe not quite as much as normal. Sleeping not too badly but only for 5/6 hours then I stiffen up as I can't thrash around like I am used to doing, and I don't like sleeping on my back either which I have to do at the moment. It will get better so i am not stressing over it. It is nice to know that I can come on here and whinge a bit and people understand.

Carole, thank you for asking, sorry I didn't reply before.. As you can see, not too bad.

Ann
glos

Dave you will be anxious about tomorrow but once you get there with your family and friends you will forget how worried you were. Stuff the people who upset you and enter the place like you own it!! If they ask where you have been remember you have been too busy. If you can't cope, have a drink and say you can't stay. But I bet you will enjoy it xx

Margaret, please excuse my rudeness, I meant to welcome you this morning but forgot you and Ann in Glos, hope to see you again. I was a bit upset to read Gails message, please Gail if you are looking in, you can always pm one of us, don't stay away but keep reading.
Ann in Glos, I said in my message last night, that I was daft enough to lose, It is a feeling of anti climax when you come home isn't it, it is the anaesthetic as you say. Hope you feel better soon, let hubby spoil you.
If your wondering why I am here and not in bed, next door are drilling and hammering in their kitchen, he finishes one job and she makes him start another.
Hi to everyone, belated birthday wishes Carole.
Hi Dave, nice to see you again.

Caz xx

Ann how are you now?

Dave thanks for b'day wishes! Have you been to club yet ?

Gail,
Just keep reading if not posting, we are all here for you.
YCaz, hope you will soon be feeling a lot better. When I was going in for my op they couldn't get the needle in to my hand for the drip so they then had to swop hands. So I have a bruise on both hands now!!! Fingers didn't swell luckily.

Ann
Glos

Morning every one.

Hello Margaret, nice to see your post as I also felt stressed as a child being expected to look after my younger sister! She was a free spirit who did as she liked I was the responsible one!! Didn't want that! I always had tummy ache at school, and remember a class photo being put on the wall and the crowd round it saying how every one looked happy, except me sat on the front row with a sad face, I know I had tummy ache that day, still remember it! 40 years ago!!

Gail if you look in please stay with us. You know we are all happy to see you, and you would be missed so much on here. This is a nice place :o) and you are important to us xx

Thank you to you all for birthday wishes yesterday.

Yorkshire Caz I'm so pleased you got checked out.
Bet it feels good to be back home and know it was
something fairly simple and nothing to threaten your life!! I had an allergic reaction to codine last year it was awfull, I thought I was going to die. Your feet being purple makes me think of those poor people who did the drugs test and were all ill, do you know the ones I mean? xxxx Have a good day with your oh xxx

Mary and Deanna why don't you make a shorter list to start with? Add to it as you have made some progress. Well done to you both it sounds like your bin men will have a heavy load to pick up next collection day.

Betty how are you?

Liz ~~~~ what you been doing? Any chance of your bin men having a heavy load from your houe? xx

Joyce deep breath count to ten and start again!! xx

Ann GG / Glos ~~~~ to you both well said to Gail !! xx

Where is our Romany ?

~~~~~ to Dave & Elaine xx

that's it Gail, keep looking in even if you don't post - but I do hope you will - we are all here for you and always will be here for anyone who needs comfort and support - that's what this thread is all about

Love Ann XX

Sorry every one, did delete all my posts, did not want to give this person any more ammunition to fire at me.

I am very fragile just now. I loved this thread as it has been so helpful.

This is not the first time I have been under fire form them I have now blocked them from contacting me.

I will look in now and then, just a bit wonded at present.

Gail

Gail,
If you are still looking in, please don't delete your posts on here, it will leave a blank and cause confusion. And we are confused enough already. Have a break if that is how you feel but please do not let that person chase you away from something you enjoy.

((((hugs)))) Ann Glos

Hi Margaret - nice to see you on the boards and as you say, keep on fighting.

To you Gail, have left you a long message on your thread about that person - please read it - and keep looking in honeybun - we'll all be thinking of you and get that GP of yours sorted!!!!

Caz, we are all ok, just some peeps have upset me, with PMs I do not need just now.

Gail

It's a shame Gail, we will miss you, I look for you on a morning and there you are. Hope you are both ok and come back to us soon if you can.

Caz xx

Hi everyone, thinking of you all. Please be kind to yourselves.

I will not be posting for a while, having a rest from the boards for a while.

Apologies to everyone in advance, but will be deleting all my posts as well.

Have come across some amazing people on this thread, I think you are all wonderful, caring people.

Bye

Gail

Night all, it`s 1am and I`m off to bed, perchance to dream . . . ., why am I wanting to sleep so much, could it be that`s I`ve forgotten some of my meds. . . what`s wrong with my keyboard, I keep getting Italian or french letters with accents. when I try and type a query.
Too tired to think, night all,
Liz hope you`re Ok.
maxiMary

Meant to tell you that the lump on my neck is going all sqishy and smaller rather than the hard lump it was, yippee it must be working. I'll have to check the others.

Caz xx