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kerry so very sorry on your sad news.love and hufs to you at this sad timexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx):

Kerry and Wendy... It's hard right now and you'll never forget... but as everyone says remember your babies as people... my daughter is 25 and has presented me with a wonderful 'cheeky' grandaughter', but I often wonder who her brother would have been... a much longed for son in a family of girls... but it wasn't meant to be... My thoughts are with you both right now, Magi

Oh Kerry. I am so sorry to hear you sad news, Am thinking of you and your family. Also sending you lots of hugs!! Patxx

Kerry I have read your thread tried to leave a message but I don't know the right words to say now I am trying again to leave a message please try to think positive

my son is nearly 6months old

my heart goes out to you not much comfort but sending you loards off hugs n kisses lisa

Kerry, I'm very sorry to hear your news. Hope you will be well enough to have another baby later on. Take care. CB >|< XX

Dear Kerry and Wendy, So sorry to hear your sad news. Three of my close friends had such problems, but they all managed to complete their families eventually and that's going back some years. One of my friends 'waited' 8 years for her second baby with many sad moments in betwen. As others have said, no one is to blame and do seek counselling if you need it. You need to be 100% fit before 'trying again' to put all the odds on your side. How old is your little one, Kerry? My nephew's second 2-year-old daughter (who was sadly affected over the loss of their third baby) also needed counselling. What a beautiful poem from Bev ... made me cry too. Lots of hugs to you all.

Kerry and Wendy So sorry to read this. I know just what you are going through. Don't be afraid to ask for support, and most importantly don't be afraid to show your feelings. As previous posts have said, name your baby and make a special place of remembrance where you can leave flowers etc. You will always remember your baby. The grief becomes easier to cope with in time. Take care Sue

Kerry and Wendy I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Nothing I can say or do will help, it makes me feel very useless but you must have given a home to a very good little soul for him not to need to live with us all. I agree with Glenys, remembering them as people instead of letting them be called a miscarriage helped me, and being very practical was also good, contacting people with experience and trying to identify the cause. Whether your baby had a long or short life you are still his mummy and by looking after yourself very carefully you are honouring his memory. I am thinking of you. Take good care Abigail

Sorry to hear your sad news Kerry, that is so hard to bear. Love, Christina.

Sending lots of love to you and your family. Elaine x

I have no answers for you. All I can do is send a big cyber hug and lots of love. Jacky xx

Kerry I am so sorry to hear your news, its always hard when you miscarry, a longed for child, you're not alone, alot of us have been through it. I send you a (((((hug)))))) and wish you well. take care Sandra

Oh god Kerry! Am devasted for you. If you need ANYTHING please just ask. My positive thoughts and love are with you right now Love becx

Dear Kerry, I went through this too, less than 3 weeks ago, I AM SO SORRY for your loss, it would have been my third baby but instead ended up being my seventh miscarriage. Try and read these threads when you feel up to it, it does help to know that you are not alone and that others know what you are feeling. I'm still grieving myself but if there is any way I can help please let me know, I will be thinking of you and your family, take care love Wend xxx

Hi I've been there and know how it feels. All I can say at the moment is it takes time. There's never any rhyme or reason for these things, so don't even dwell on the question 'why?'. You will only go round in circles and get no answers at the end of it. Just be good to yourself and look after yourself and your health as best you can. Get as much sleep as you can and eat healthily to get yourself back on form. Easier said than done I know. Check with the maternity unit if ther is any support and counselling available through them. Also check if there's a remembrance garden anywhere. A cemetery near our local maternity hospital has a remembrance wall for lost babies where you can go with flowers or little teddies etc. It can be very comforting. Lots of love surrounding you from me and my hubs. xxx

Kerry, I am so sorry for you all......take care Sue..........xx

I am so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, Sheila x

Kerry, I am so sorry to hear your news. (((((hugs))))) Jill xx