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Serious question. My excuse is that I was a born again christian for about 6 years; ran the Sunday School; my faith gradually ebbed away and sadly will not return. Do you have a reason.? I would be interested to hear what people have to say. (O)happy day........

oooppppsss i forgot :)

I have nothing against the chuches and chapels around here. It's the unchristian behaviour of the members that has put me off. It's a shame more don't listen when they go. Gwynne

for me only 3 reasons for going 1 christening 2 wedding 3 funeral Paul

Was brought up a Catholic and forced to go to Mass every Sunday...now I visit a church, any denomination will do, whenever I feel the need for a bit of peace. I am a happy athiest. XX BC

Because I went to 8 o'clock communion this morning:)

because we don't meet in August! Penny

Paul , As a non attendee, I pre-booked my funeral and put down for a church service even though I no longer go. Your answer and my own action make me feel a trifle uncomfortable. Are we just using the church for our own benefit? happy days

Sorry harry no excuses just don't go I think there are a lot more christian people that help people in other ways if you know what I mean Howardxx

Despite the fact that I do very much believe in God I don't go to Church - I don't feel that I need to label myself to be a good Christian. I was christened a Methodist but rarely went to Church as a young child, then my parents split and my Mother married a Methodist Minister - all of a sudden at the age of 11 I was expected to go to Church every Sunday and had religion well and truely rammed down my throat, needless to say I rebelled eventually. It wasn't until I was in my early 20's that I started to think about religion again and found a sort of faith - but it's not one that I feel I need to shout about or even share with other people. I agree that there are many good people out there who don't attend Church and many bad people who do! Kaye x

Harry I don't think you have to go along and be seen on a Sunday to have a faith. I believe in my own way and yes I know I could do a lot better than I do but with three children two of which are a big handful I would not enjoy it as would be sorting them out. Just because someone goes to church does not make them a better person than one that does. (my own opinion) As a child I was made to go until the age of 14 then parents said it was up to us if we went or not. I still went and went to youth club etc. When I got married got a special licence so I could get married in the church I went to as a teenager with a vicar that knew me. Have had my children christened and where we used to live took the children to church. I know people that go to church just to look good, surely thats not what its all about!

Very interesting answers. Thank you all very much. had been hoping for a message of hope - there is still time, but I fear the worst. Some honest answers though. happy days

Harry - you were hoping for a message of hope, but about Church or Faith? Kaye x

Bit complex that Kaye - hope for the 'inner man or woman' is what I was angling for. Are the two not married.? Many thanks. Happy days.

I think there's hope Harry - at least I believe there is. I think what this thread has shown is that there are many 'good' people out there, but that they don't all see a need to go to Church. It sounds like you miss your Faith? Sorry if I'm being too nosey. Kaye x

Yes, I do miss my faith. Eliza B - good for you. Some very wise comments from you all. happy days

Because I'm not christian

I have another view. My 'neighbour' from hell, is a so called christian and the way she behaves in life and then goes to church on a sunday I think is hypocritical. I believe you don't have to go to church to believe, you can do that anywhere. I hate the type of people who make themselves look good by going and preaching it at you. They are a minority and I am in no way saying everyone is doing that. But I know some who do. My husband was made to go every sunday by his mother. As soon as he was 18 he stopped going and never goes anymore. Just the usual Christening, Wedding , Funeral. So I suppose I think it's up to the individual.

As a child I did not believe the stories in the Bible , my religious education teacher at senior school was murdered.. and it developed to a point where at weddings I stayed in the churchyard.......at the wedding at a close friend in France I did make an effort but had to retreat from the church because of the heavy oppression I felt............my two youngest children have not been christened... I did find a new way but do not now attend........but the annoying thing is that I believe the church needs support more than ever and I know that I am relying on other people to support it until one day I may need it......... I could go again but I would still not believe the written word.... no answer is it

OK Harry serious question, serious answer... I do believe in a God purely because I feel we have to believe in something good, I do NOT, however, believe in the Bible..it is a book written by man (or woman!) about a man... I do not believe in Virgin Birth....I do not believe that God created earth in 6 days.....My church is wherever I am, the trees, the garden, my house, the street! A best friend of mine went to Church every Sunday, as did her father....one day her husband took her to a meeting and suddenly they were born again Christians..when her father died the thing that upset her most was not his death but the fact that he had not 'come to Jesus' before he died! I asked her if she thought a loving God would not take care of her father who had regularly attended Church but would care for a triple murderer who had 'come to Jesus'!!! Jacquie xxxx Happy Days Harry...