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yes jude i am, when he started school, wasnt there long his only achievement was winning a chess tournament i have that on the walls every time we move, i wouldnt know where to start with chess can play snap and drats thats about it . he was also in our local paper because he told his support worker what was wrong with her car , by just listning to it , saved her loads at the garage they called him the car wisperer as he still does it now lol.

Yes Puss he is exceptionally bright-3 yrs of age dec just gone and his speech is perfect, he can name all the dinosaurs well most of them, he can speak a little spanish knows all his colours and numbers and you can hold a conversation with him like an adult, he expects an explanation all the time. Funny enough he's back to university tomorrow there's an institute in Manchester called the Max Plank Institute Leipzig and it's part of the Dept of Psychology, they are studying his development against children that have autism. His dad is taking him cos I went last time, so I will let you know the outcome. catherine xx

ails, i think if i was at school now nearly 40 i could have been helped i cant do any sums or spell lol, and was told im dyslexic , but you were just classed as a thicky then and still are today by igneraniums lol. thing is if someone else spells something wrong i understand it straight away. i recently did a A level biology papaer and got a pass, at school dont even ask lol, spelling is my big handicapp but we have a laugh about it now. ATA LEAST NOW THESE DIFFICULTIES ARE BEING NOTICED BUT ITS ALL DOWN TO FUNDING IVE BEEN VERY LUCKY WITH Y SON .woops not shouting lol.

Yes....my nephew has no fear either. Nor embarrasment. it worries me sometimes. He recently decided that his school uniform was uncomfortable so he stripped it off in the boys toilets and proceeded to walk across the school grounds naked to get a change of play clothes from his school bag. He is only 7 but it goes to show that he doesn't display the same emotions as other 7 year olds. He's very loving, but it must be on his terms. If he wants to hug, he will, but he won't allow anyone to touch him otherwise. His repedative behaviour is classic. He loves spinning tops and will sit and spin them for hours on end. He also must follow a certain routine at mealtimes, bedtime etc... He's absolutely lovely.

My daughter has high functioning Autism, Aspergers is classed as a form of Autism. All I can say is he is lucky to have a mum like you! I know only too well how daily things we take for granted can caused so much pain and stress. Well done to your son and too you x

Hiya Puss......I had never heard of this until a contenstant was said to have this and he nearly won Big Brother a couple of years ago......what a lovely chap he was too..... On GMTV for a week they concentrated on this Syndrome and brought it to viewers attention......they did say there were different levels at which people are affected by this.....I think that every step forward must be like a milestone, and such a joy for the parents.... Sorry to say I cannot remember this guy's name.......but he was fixated on the morse code and radio...

thats brill catherine xx. its all still quite new he is so clever bet he has something that hasnt been invented yet, you just take to him the minute you see him little proffesor. the hardest thing i found was when you try to cuddle a child or have eye contact there is nothing, they have little emotion, and no remorse , but every now and again he will say how are you mum, i just want to cry when he says that its about 1 a year so probably the same as any other teen lol. ans when i tell him i love him or hug him he smiles or does a nervous chuccle and its time like that it makes it all worth while

Puss - it may be that you're getting funding where you live but here in NI we have had BIG cuts in the education budget. We have lost our Reading Recovery scheme which is supposed to catch children with reading problems as early as 5 years old. Our SENCO retired (boys was she GOOD at her job!!) & wasn't replaced - her duties were handed to our VP. It's crazy to put a price on our children's education!! I'm so pleased about your Biology A level. Go for it, girl!! Ails x

thankyou coylass, and i wish you love and support with your child too, there are times when it gets bad but i have found the older they get it seems easier, they are just more fragile i guess. deb i know what you mean with my sons last bout of depression and eating prolems we took him to docas i visualised what he was going to say when we were in there yes we sore the most stern doc of them all, he said how are you feelin dave, he said sh*t. but i saw the doc smirk lol. i was so embarreded another good one is he would study someones face and then say why do you have 16 red spots all over your face, or you are very ugly , talking about the ground opening up lol. sally yes its nice its being reconised now, i was told my son was naughty because i got divorced and moved house lol, his sister works in a bank and the other one is going to be a astonaught lol.

Thanks for this thread Puss. I didn't know anything about Aspergers . Find it interesting. You must be so proud of him. Germaine x

You must be really proud . In fact you both have every reason to be !!! Take care Claire xxx

ails thanks, husband said i paseed it cause im a hypercondriac lol. and look up my illnesses on the net lol. i make sure he is at every app now so he knows lol. seriously though we were very lucky with dave we did have to move 50 miles away and live on a gypsy site till we got a house of the council so he could attend this special school, and we live in the country side a bit its good for us. we go homwe at weekends to our local and sleep in our tourer so we can see friends and have a drink lol.

germaine and mad moo, i am especially the times when i felt like i couldnt take any more, but the way i felt i would think if i feel like that how the hell must he be feeling, you know what i love most is him chattering away on msn ( with a mic) and knowing he is communicating with the outside world, i think every mum worries what if i die and who will care for him, as its unrelentless think thats the write word , but now i know he has basic understanding of his need s. and there are funny stories, they are very honest peiople and he will just blurt out that he thinks someone is stupid whilst were trying to be diplomatic lol. i never thought we would get this far, so i hope this helps those with newly diagnosed peeps with it and im always around for a chat if you need one

ladypuss, hope you dont mind me asking about your sons depression only this was mentioned to me yest at a meeting, my daughter is having a few probs at the moment and we have to increase some of her meds then go back if no improvement then they want to give her anti depressants any tips on bringing her out of this back hole she seems to be in?

Puss my brothers son has Aspergers....

coylass i dont mind at all if this helps one person its worth it, i found putting my son on ceratriline a antidepressent, wa the best thing that happened i think it changed his out look on life , it was aa hard decission at the time but things could nt have got any worse was the way i looked at it. he has recently gone back on them i thinkits hard enough for a teenagwer anyway but with this aspergers on top i think its done him good, he is also eating better now too because he feels better.doctors dont like putting kids on them but if it imroves her quality of live go for it, just to a smile is worth it. there not as a ddictive as they were years ago and my sone has had no bac side affects , hope you find something that helps xxxx

hi sal if he ever wants a chat pass him my email, the best thing i did was talk it makes you feel that your nmot alone, i feel like i can listen sympathise and empathise now that i have been there and survived the hell, cause it is some days when you watching some one you love so tortured by life and the ignorence of others especially doctors.

Thanks Puss, they are having a really rough time of it as he is getting violent and his wife will not allow him to have any medication at all.....

sal she must let him be treated, its hell for child too, they are so strong, they dont want to lash out but its one emotion they can can controll to get out of controll. this is awfull for them but the medication would help in calming, him, also he could really harm himself when he becomes violent , my son would smash his head of walls and would really harm himself, they dont cry wolf. sal do you want my email, to give them, i wouldnt preach but i would listen xx

also what i find astonishing he has self taught himself to read and play music he learnt himself the guitar which i love listning to, he is hoping tpo go on to college and do music which again will be a big hurdle but we got this far, nothing stopping us now. i feel bitter his dad turned his back and said he couldnt handle it , bit mayby its best for him to be gone than be hear and resent it. specky is a special man he is his best friend .