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do you know someone with it or your child has it. my son is coming up 16 he has had aspergers since he was 2 years old, and finaly diagnosed at 12. what a journey that has been, tears heartache frustration, desperation i think every emotion possible is felt. there is no joy in looking after a person with this only satisfaction that you have been there and done your best im now proud to say after so long my son has spent the last 2 years in mainstream school and has 7 predicted GCSE Bs AND Cs so i feel like the proudest mum on earth what a lovely mothers day present for me, shame his dad walked, and isnt sharing this joy with me .

Bless you and bless your Son - you have every right to be proud of him-well done.

No Puss not had any experience of it. But well done to your son for achieving those levels in his GCSE's. Heather x

East End Maz has a child with it.

can i just add aspergers to me is my child thinks in a latteral way all the time , ie; if you say its raining cats and dogs , he becomes/ became frustrated as to why he could not see that, and she bit my head off, i once asked what do you think when i say that he replied a lady in a dark room with no head. as you can imagine when a small child is faced with just learning, being totally confused by everything you say imagine a child with aspergers they dont know how to say i dont understand so they shut themselfs away. we learnt to say , do you under4stand what i have just said , and he would be able to tell us .yes or no, this was the big breakthrough.

Lady puss my son was diagnosed 18 months a go with asd. (he is nearly 9) I hope your son does well in his gcse. My eldest is due to take is this year as well. Julia

YES - I have had some experience of it as I am a teacher. There seem to be more & more children diagnosed with this & it's getiing harder to cope with them in school (at least it is in primary schools!!). Aspergers is on the autistic spectrum and affects mainly boys. My 2nd son is borderline Aspergers & drives us cuckoo at times with his 'obsessions!!' Quite a high percentage of children diagnosed with it have a higher than average IQ - you may find that they will be better at subjects such as Maths because there is a definate right or wrong answer. They generally don't like English as it is too 'flowery' and they have problems expressing their feelings & emotions. Ails x

thankyou for your nice comments basically i have just been a mum, he has done the hard work. a mum to me is there through thick and thin believe me there was times i wished us both dead so he didnt have to take the way he was feeling which was depression confused lonley living in a black hole and me because i was responsable for him. WE DONT feel like that now but with the write support although you really have to fight for it does help.

I have nudge Maz thread Autistic Spectrum and Special Needs Kids Julia

puss i had a post graduate with mild aspergers ,he was lovely.and very very clever.he had to have support but he did it.i was so proud of him.xxxx

thanks for nudging , other thread will take a look. ails the obsessions i found very hard to deal with, he would only eat certain food cooked certain ways then they wernt allowed to touch each other so found it easyier to do it on seperate plates, before he was diagnosed if we ate in a restauraunt he would have nothing , and wouls spend the time sat under the table , now we know he was petrifed with all these strangers talking and him not being able to understand a word they were saying.

yes my son has high functioning aspergers when he was 5 we would go shopping and by the time we got to the till with a weeks shopping , he would say the total, he would always be within pence, of course then i hadnt heard of aspergers or autism, and at the time was told i had a naughty boy who needed disipline. i knew something was very wrong by then but not what.

Good for you Puss-to be honest I have never heard of it, what exactly is it? catherine xx

Hi, My nephew is a high functioning autistic and is in mainstream schooling and coping well. He signs mostly as his verbal skills aren't well developed, but this hasn't stopped him from succeeding in his studies and creating friendships. He does have problems understanding that some behaviour has to be controlled; he does things without thinking about the outcome. He is quite brilliant with maths and is miles ahead of his classmates. I'm very proud of him. Deb:)

hi catherine its a very complex problem as ails pointed out it affects mainly boys, my son had a very bad time when he was younger, he tried to kill himself several times because he was so confused and didnt understand life, however he didnt want to die to kill hemself he just wanted everything to go away. he also tried killing his baby sister a few times because she was noisey. this is what i would like to know if ther parents feel if there children suffer from depression with it. obsessions are quite taxing on the carer, i would be pushing him in a puschair, and if i didnt go over a grid in the road i would have to go back. or if we touched his things he had to throw them away, washing hands about a 100 times a day although this would change to combing hair , he has it died orange at the moment and wont comb it lol. but thats a good teenage thing lol.

hi deb, i found my son has no concept of fear, if we punished him and he was sent to his room, he would just open the window and jump out luckily he never hurt himself, the doc said its because he would have been quite relaxed well his muscles as he jumped as he wasnt scared to do it. the most worrying part was a facination for fire , he tried setting fire tio his school, because he said it was horrible and every one was shouting we realised that he needed to be statemented and taught one to one , which was a turning point in our lives. im sure he wouldnt be here now if it had not been for that.

oh I see-it sound similar to OCD dosen't it. I'm wondering if my son has OCD, he's 3 as you know and it very particular about certain things, if any doors are left open he has to shut them, things have to be put straight and in a certain way, maybe he's just being normal I'm not sure cos I have heard it's very rare to have it so young. I do suffer a bit from it myself, wether he has just picked up my obsessions I'm not sure but his are different from mine. catherine xx

No l don't know of any - but my sister has 2 boys with autism. Well done to your son Puss, you really must be so proud. Are you going to frame his certificates?? jude sarf wales :o)

catherine after meeting my little friend he is one very bright special boy, and excptional for his age but i havent noticed anything else , but your with him 24/7 and see much more, he is very very clever though and chatty lol he even has a soap box dont he catherine bless him.

Catherine - if we all look at ourselves closely enough,we could say we all have OCD tendencies. Don't give him a label but discuss your concerns with your Health Visitor/Dr. Be aware of anything that appears out of the ordinary & make a note of it. My (10 year old) son was very bright as a toddler - before he was 2 he knew all his colours & could recognise numbers up to 8. Last night I sat with my 12 year old helping him with his algebra homework as he was having problems. The 10 year old turned & said 'I don't know why he's having problems with Maths - those are easy.' Last week he sat & did a LONG division sum - he has never been shown how to do them before. Ails x