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Well its not me lol :-(....but I know what you mean Rose :-)

Blimey Rose! :-D That's a bit deep. :-S

Its the difference between the Cake Takers & the Cake Eaters?
:-D
The people who when you talk with them or read what they say & you feel like you,ve been given a gift, as opposed to the ones who leave you feeling totally drained...sadly I know less of the former than the later.

That's it exactly Eeyore "you feel like you,ve been given a gift, ...."

...... and then there's the ones who make you want to throw up because the cake tasted disgusting .......

Gwynne

lol Gwynne... I just had a flashback there to Caraway seed cake :-0 never could take to that :-D

I think what you learn as a child usually carries on. My mum would often say 'how would you feel if someone had said that to you' if I said something she didn't like. I in turn said it to my children and grand children. To this day I always try to remember this before I say something I might regret

Wendy

Rose, I'm not getting -
"I might not even feel 'at ease' with the person but recognise their influence...it is not always comfortable to be reminded
( unintentionally) by someone, of the flaws in your own character."

That doesn't sound like being given a gift to me :-S

Wendy, it has taken me a long time to shake of what I learned as a child and I feel one hell of a lot better for it.
I don't allow anyone to make me feel I have flaws. I am a good person and a realistic one.

lol Island, well no maybe not at the time,

for example I have a lack of patience and a quick temper, therefore in a situation where I might 'snap' and make things worse by what I say, the kind of person I am talking of would be gentle and diffuse the situation and make it better. I can be reminded that this is how I 'should' be and try and remember to be more like that in the future...because I'd LIKE to be...but at the same time find being around such a person not 'easy' because I know I can never be what they are?

Island, so what you learnt as a child did stick. What you learn isn't always good and as an adult you realised that this wast not what you wanted to believe in. I on the other hand decided that what I was taught as a child was good manners etc and so I wanted to pass it on.

What I'm trying to say is that I think that whatever it is you learn as a child stays with you and as an adult you have the choice to continue that way or change.

Wendy

I was brought up on the "do as you would be done by" theory...
It's not that great really because as a child it is easy to be influenced by adults & my Mum was the Queen of Sarcasm & I am my Mother's daughter in that respect.

Island I wouldn't say anyone made me 'feel' I have flaws, it is my own perception that some of my traits could do with having the edges smoothed a bit ;) for my own good as well as anyone elses, it is just that certain people remind me of that...perhaps when I need reminding most lol.

Out for the afternoon so will reply later :-D >>>>>

Off topic but

Eeyore, is this lovely dog yours? Every time I look at it's face I think of different things it could be thinking or saying, ie 'I've told you once I did NOT do it - it was the cat'

Wendy

You can only be yourself Rose.

Wendy. No.
edit. sorry I don't mean Eeyores dog LOL

Islands a bit of an animal :-D Growl. :-D

Joking Aside (Re Island) Yes, I know one who is alive now though extremely ill, and another who died some time ago.I feel privilidged to know them.**M**.

Teneriffe Sun...yes that's my dog, she has a very expressive face, that was" if your going near the pantry any chance of a biscuit" face :-D

I agree with my BC you have to the balance of both nice not so nice serious irrate calm and even the doom and gloom crew if you dont its dont right boring :-D

Eeyore (sorry for going off topic Rose). I thought it was her, 'you do know you haven't fed me don't you?' face.

Daff was such a person - on and off the boards

Me, I take everyone at face value until I find out differently - I'm very impulsive and very trusting, but don't betray my trust or you'll know it. ;-)