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are put here to remind the rest of us to be 'civilised' ( only word I can think of, no offence meant ) ? To hold back on our cynicism and encourage 'us' to be kinder to everyone? Not in a moralistic way just by example.

They possibly don't even realise that this is what they are doing, there is someone on this board who does it and I don't want to embarrass them by naming, but I thank them nonetheless :-)

well straight away Elizabeth of the Seasons springs to mind <3

Yes Rose, Some people just have a way with them of being 'nice' without being sugary over the top, at least on here and probably in real life too. I can also think of one of our long time friends who is like that and she has so many health problems you wouldn't believe, same age as me, now uses a wheel chair but is always so welcoming on the few occasions a year we meet, so loving and pleased to see us and never a bad word to say for anyone. So concerned for everyone else's welfare. I am not sure if they are born that way or if they have grown up in a family where they are all the same I don't know our friend's family other than her OH.

I am sure we could all learn a thing or two from them.

People are 'put' here? :-S

I thought we were all willing members. So no, not feeling it Rose. :-S

don't think Rose means "put here on the boards" but the world in general

oh right. Still no, sorry.

Bit brief Island. so you mean they learn to be as they are? Or nobody is like it?

No Island, as Ann says , I didn't mean 'put here' on the board, I meant in life generally... :-D

People you meet, encounter in some way, that bring out the best in you by virtue of being 'admirable' I suppose.

Perhaps 'put here' was the wrong term because it pre-supposes a design by a greater power, which I know is anathema to many lol... and that's fine, put it down to luck instead :-D

We shall all be guessing who you mean now, Rose! :-D I think a healthy balance of cynicism and kindness is somewhat easier to attain and yes there are a few people on GR who get that right. <3

You're making me blush, stop it.

....mostly female :-D :-D :-D

Bye, I'm off play rugby then drink some beer.

It's not you Eldrick ;-) lolol...It's certainly not me either :-D

I can think of several people I have met through life (some just briefly but who left an impression) that had that 'subtle' influence, though it obviously hasn't worked on me yet

edit, thats not meant as an insult to Eldrick lol, there are lots of nice people, funny people, hard working good people, but I mean people who are a bit 'special' in the influence they have
:-)

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

Does this stop when we reach adulthood or do you think it continues to be true?
I do.

Rose, it was 'put here' that I disagreed with.

We all get different 'vibes' from different people. I think it's a case of feeling more relaxed with some people so it rubs off but It doesn't mean that someone whose company I feel easy in is going to have that effect on everyone.

Horses for courses I guess.

Equally there are some people put here just to annoy the hell out of us :-D :-D :-D :-D ;-)

I was actually being ironic

I find Island an easy old mare myself :-D

Teresa ;-) I know rather more of them :-D

Island, yes there are people one feels very comfortable with, sometimes instantly, but that other's may not. We are all very different.

I might not even feel 'at ease' with the person but recognise their influence...it is not always comfortable to be reminded
( unintentionally) by someone, of the flaws in your own character.

Carol, I think it continues as adults but the lessons are less easy to learn, and change is harder to effect.

Gosh Eldrick...I didn't know you did 'irony' ;-) :-D