General Chat

Rrenda,
What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful brave lady,.
my sincere condolences to you all, and to everyone who has suffered the loss of a loved one.

HEAVEN HAS ANOTHER ANGEL TO WATCH OVER US.
RIP x

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sincere condolences to you and all the family.

Sue x

Brenda, what a calm and gentle way for your daughter in law to leave this painful life she was suffering. It's sad she couldn't have enjoyed the lovely island for longer but maybe she hoped this was the way things would happen so she didn't have to let her loved ones see her passing. They are now experiencing the gentleness of the island too and can say their goodbyes without the pressures of outside ordinary life. I think it will help them a lot to cope with their loss and when they get back and have their Mum's relatives with them too, they will have ample chances to talk about her and cry when they need to and your son won't have to carry it all on his shoulders as he starts his new job. Poor man must be so stressed with all that has happened and then a new job to contend with. I am sure his lovely wife will be with him as he moves on to this new part of his life and I wish him every success. I hope he finds time to mourn her gently as well altho the island will have helped him to do that already to a great extent. I think it is lovely the way they have dealt with the funeral and such and can only wish her eternal rest and to one day be reunited with her loved ones.

I hope you have plenty of support too, I can understand how you must be feeling.
take care of yourself as much as you can


love
Lizxxx

Very sorry to hear your sad news
I will be thinking of you and your family.
Carol XX

"I like to think that perhaps they are not stars in the sky
rather little slits, where our loved ones peep through
to let us know they are happy. x

Sorry to hear your about your D.I.L.

My thoughts are with you all.

Lx

Brenda
I am so sorry for your family's loss.
How brave and dignified your daughter in law was and her passing sounds so calm.
What wonderful memories you will have of her and your son's support of his whole family.

I hope they find the peaceful setting helps them in these difficult early days.

Gwyn

I have just looked up the resort site Brenda.It just looks beautiful.I think your DIL chose the right place for her last days.So peaceful .I hope your son and his children are coping with their loss

I have just returned from the memorial service arranged by J's mother.


It was very moving with her sister reading one of J's poems and a beautiful eulogy written by the eldest sister,but read out by the vicar..
After prayers I played "All things bright and beautiful "on the piano and could hardly see the keys.
They then played Amazing grace,which was what they had at the wedding 27 years ago.

Further to my p.m to you Brenda, I am pleased the memorial service went well, thinking of you all. Take care, May.

Dear Brenda, I'm sorry I've only just seen this thread, may I add my sincere condolences to you and your son & family. I trust that the peaceful memories they will share of her passing will give them strength.
Hugs from across the pond.
Mary

Brenda, I have only just seen this sad news. My condolences to you, your son, grandchildren and family.

I can not find words to express what I am feeling right now.
May you find the strength to deal with things at this sad time.

Deb

Brenda, I am glad the memorial service went well as these things can. I am sure J was watching in approval and sending her love to all her family and friends.

I was at a similar service yesterday for the interment of my cousin's wife's ashes, in with his, in their local churchyard. The Organ wouldn't work but there were enough people to sing loudly and the words spoken by her son were funny, interesting and loving, and brought S and J back in a flash - i could hear my cousin saying the words his son repeated....and getting together later and sharing memories was so comforting for all.

It's lovely that the memories people leave, however sad or too soon their departing, can bring comfort, laughter and joy and ease the sadness - we should have celebrations when people are living so they know how much they mean to everyone, altho I am sure they are watching everything anyway.


Do you think your son and the family will visit some time, after they have adjusted to the changes in their lives?

I suppose the new job your son just started will take up all his energies for a while at least, hope he is getting on ok.

Lizxx

Brenda.
I am sorry I have only just seen this.
I am glad that the service went well yesterday.
I know this sounds weird but! is was a happy way to read how J left this world.
My love and thoughts are with you all

xxxxx

Brenda,
Sorry that I have only just seen this. What an extraordinary and brave person your daughter in law must have been.Condolences to your son and grandchildren, theyshould be very proud of her. Hugs to you as well .xx

Thank you everyone.
I tried to post more last night,but for some reason my internet connection went,which was a nuisance because I had posted a message to my son,who is still on his remote island,and I like him to receive a message when he goes up his hill to get his very weak signal.did get one back just after midnight here (11.0am there)to say they had been swimming with manta rays and it was an awesome experience.
They are leaving Naviti on Tues to go back to Nadi before flying home on Weds...then the test will be dealing with everyday life.I am so pleased that J's mum and sister will be there from 16th for 4 weeks while he gets life organised...only wish I could be there,but my duties are here with OH.
I'm sure they will stay in Oz,but return for a holiday from time to time.
Thank goodness for phones and web cams.
I have printed off the previous replies and J's mum will take them out with her for him to read.I will do the same with the latest ones...thank you.
Brenda x x