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little maadam

if our daughter ruined stuff i threatened her id spoil sumut of hers,
its frustraiting when the lie isnt it , i know exactly, i hate that,
shes old enough too now to be bit m ore grown up,

hope your mam makes you feel better tina, take deep breath count to ten and accidently tip something on her stuff,
bet your mam gets cross too for you,
thinking of you

If you haven't got anywhere safe to lock it away, treat yourself to the expensive stuff and leave it with a friend or your mum for safe keeping until you want to use it. Buy some cheap stuff that you wont use and leave it in your room, iif she wants makeup she can use that.

And your OH should not be taking sides with his daughter against you. How unfair of him when you are not well.

Ann
Glos

Everyone has said it all so I will just send you a big (((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))
and you take care of yourself - your health is so important
Love Mary xx

Thank God my teenage brat turned back into my lovely daughter (eventually!)

The only thing that I can really suggest Tina, why not get your OH to give her the money to buy her own make-up? She won't need to use yours then.

the only thing i can say is lock it away, thats what i am doing everything that is mine is under lock and key, its a phase that they go through.

i am sorry to hear you are not well, your oh should listen and understand what you are saying.

it may only be makeup but its not the point, my daughter helps herself to my stuff and was wearing a braclet that belongs to her younger sister, not a sorry or thank you, the final straw came when she took my eyeliner,

lock it away and when all is calm i would mention to your oh that she has an allowance or you buy her so much a month.

its annoying but dont let her ruin your recovery and i hope you feel better soon.

andiex

Sorry Tina, but I feel compelled to say - your OH needs a bl**dy good kick up the backside! And I'm not joking. As for step-daughter - well .........
How dare he - and she - treat you like this, especially after what you've been through.
Perhaps you need time at your Mum's to recuperate from the stress you're living with at the moment; see how they both do in your absence.
Take care, you.
x

I think its part of being a 15 year old - use all of mums best make up and swear blind you didnt. They could tell you black was white till they had you doubting yourself.

My sister bought a vanity case one with a number code on it and leaves her good stuff locked away - dont get a key one they are too simple to get into.

Also if you finish a really good bottle of perfume - if you can get into it fill it with water and TCP or something else that wont hurt but dosent smell good.

Leave it where she thinks shes getting your No.5, YSL or whatever else is your best to wear. She wont be able to complain that she smells like a drain as she shouldnt have been using it in the first place!

Ooh Mac, you little devil, you lol.
Possibly because the "u" is next to the "i" on the keyboard ..............?
x

*whispers* I'm trying to sound intelligent, lol. Sometimes it works, but not often! :-))))
x

Tina - I am so sorry you are so stressed. My idea for what its worth - go out and buy the cheapest, foulest make-up/creams etc you can - I'd happily send you the money for it - and leave it where she can help herself BUT buy yourself your usual nice stuff and hide it away under lock and key. When she finds out that you are only using tacky rubbish, she might just stop !!

I so sympathise Tuna,

I can safely say that teenagers and trying to combine families has been the most stressful and difficult thing i have ever experienced. I so feel for you, what a strain it puts on relationships doesnt it?


Hugs for you,


Caz xxx

Er, yes Mac, but I'm not telling! It's our secret! lol

(Read "No" for that, lol, but I have a feeling I'm about to find out ..........)

Jan - what a brilliant idea! Think I'll use that with our 17-y-o when she does similar things! You genius, you (and the other suggestions are good-uns, too).
x

I used to use my mums make up in secret, but I think using it ALL and lying about it is a bit unfair. I think you should stress that you aren't allowed to enter HER room and use her things. When your birthday is coming up, ask for some more foundation from her, so she doesnt forget lol. As for your OH, he's old enough to know better, he shouldnt be taking her side.

Good luck with OH and step-daughter, Tina - and I do hope someone gives him a good talking-to at the very least (I'm being polite here, lol)

As for Mac - well ..............! :-))
*stomps off thread blushing; couldn't see that one coming!*

*laughs while no-one's looking*

OMG, one phrase that really stands out for me is "I am in the dog house for gods knows how long until I apologise" YOU have to apologise for daring to tell OH when his daughter is misbehaving..
Teenagers are a notorious pain in the butt (I have 3) but you should have the right to ask your OH to deal with bad behaviour without him insisting on an apology for your doing so.

Sorry guess that's not an answer to how to reduce your stress.

Love the Community Property Idea......... Especially if you are being an unpaid taxi driver or something where her freinds will see you and she will cringe with Shame borrow some really short skirt or something equally hidious pmpl.

It has been suggested that you go to Mums for a rest. I agree with that, you need desperately to get out of there and if OH objects you need to think seriously about your relationship. He is very out of order. Best of luck. Jean

my daughter (25) is back home (for a short while I hope) All my nice bath stuff has disappeared ,my perfume mysteriously vanishing and now she's after my pop socks!!!

They are mini tights ,just come up to the knees.Sorry no suspenders!!

Tina Marie, I am afraid you have hit the normal teenage stage. Even the flesh and blood teens play dad and mum off against one another. What you have to make your husband understand is that you both have to stand together. She will grow out of it but it will take time. Possibly because you have health problems you feel more vunerable and she will pick up on this. If she has pocket money make her pay you back for what she has taken( stolen) taking without consent is stealing and a theif and a liar has to be stopped. Elaine. ps got Tiscali sorted thanks to you.