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2 lots because of the meet I decided to keep it to myself. Its a long tale but I have to explain it like this so please bare with me...

It was a cold morning its Jan 1974. I have just received the news my dad has died and their is sadness everywhere and I was so cold. Through out the course of the day different friends family neigbours visted , neibours in their pinnies carry pots of warm food. Each saying to my Mum " I shall take Hayley for a while ".Then giving me a look of pity. My Mum wouldnt allow it. I watched the comings and goings and was still cold.
By evening again the door opened and this time it was a stranger well a stranger to me. My Aunt. my dads youngest sister. She smiled and talk to me about all sorts and I moaned that I had missed banana splits and wasnt allowed the TV on and didn't want to miss Cilla that evening. My Aunt asked Mum if she could take me with her..mum began to frown and say well she will fret..by this time I already had my coat on and was informing Mum that Aunt had colour TV.
We had to get 2 buses to get to Aunts house and I sat that waffling on to her and then on the second bus I glanced out of the window and noticed that nothing was familiar. I did begin to panic. My Aunt said no worries I will take you back to your mum tomorrow. I asked if she had children and she said she did. Linda was 16 a hairdresser and courting and elaine was 13.
We got to Aunts house and I had a good look round it was warm and cosy. The TV was massive and my Uncle was watching it and as my Aunt was removing my coat I informed him that we would be watching Cilla later. He roared with laughter. Again their was a lot whispering but I was used to it by now. I looked in cupboards for toys and found some dolls.
The door open and in walked the most lovely girl I had ever seen she was wearing a mini dress and had long blonde hair and make up and she smelt lovely. She said to her mum..awww whos this I introduce myself and informed her of the days happenings and why I was there. She sat me on her knee and cuddled me..The first one of the day..but mum was busy.
For the next couple of hours I followed Linda round the house and watched her get ready to meet her boyfriend.. she did her hair and nails and make up and went out in a long party frock.she was lovely..we sang away to records and dance in her room. She asked her mum if I could go to meet her boyfriend with her. Aunt said no she will miss Cilla...to late I had my coat back on ..off and I went with Linda too meet the man she married and is still with. When she brought me back about an hour later I informed my Aunt what a scruffy house Linda boyfriend lived in..whilst he was stood at the side of me.
The following morning I woke to a thunder storm I was scared and wanted my mum and was in a strange room. I went to find my Aunt and could open her bedroom door. So went to Linda's room. She smiled at me and pulled the covers back and again cuddled me...she ran her fingers through my hair and her false nail fell off. I was so scared so we sang all the songs we knew. Sure enough Aunt took me home that day but all I could talk about was Linda. I even forgot why I went there.
For the next 12 mths I spent every moment I could with Linda and her OH at my Aunts they took me everywhere. I remember every moment of it. For some reason a row with my Mother I stopped seeing Linda and was heart broken but I never forgot how she and her Mother cared for me and made the worse times of my life the nicest.
When I started my FT I contacted my Aunt and told her how much I loved her and her family and never forgot her. I used to write and update her on my FT and send her notes and certs. Last year after 50yrs of marriage her OH my uncle died they had been together for over 53 years. married for nearly 50. later that year she found she had cancer of the bowl and also of the lung. Still she remained strong.
On friday i was coming home from work and Elaine came running towards me.My heart was in my mouth. She said " I was asking Mum about you ". jeazzz Elaine I said my heart was in my mouth I thought the worse. Elaine said..I am sorry to tell you Hayley but Linda passed away yesterday, she was out shopping collasped and never woke up. She was just over 50yrs of age. I was heartbroken...and said ..I just want to remember her as I did as a 6 year old my hero.. ....I went home and rang the rest of the family. My poor Aunty lost her Oh is ill and now her beloved daughter.
About an hour later the phone rang it was my OH cousin in Wales to tell me that her daughter who lives in Oz had delived a baby at 28 weeks a boy brought early as he has a bad heart. he weighted under 2lb. I tired to tell her not to worry and that it will be ok look at myson.
So sorry for saying before but I didnt want to spoil the meet or be treated as your walking on egg shells. Thank you to the one person I told on friday and kept it to herself as asked. xxxxxx

sending you a (((hug))) hun xxxxx

i dont have any words that are good enough

but my heart is aching reading this xxx

a trouble shared is a trouble halved

hayley i dont no what to say hun
what a lovely lady linda was at 16 to comfort you the way she did shes not suffering no more babes (((((((hugs))))))))

R.I.P linda sleep tight xxx

and the little baby boy will be a fighter is hes like the rest of the family im thinking of him hun

and you also xxx

luv ya babes
stray

Oh! Hayley I do feel for you...but what lovely memories you have of Linda and family treasure them.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))

Linda x

she sounds like a remarkable woman Hayley and I'm sorry to have read this-
Hoping the wee one will be ok-we had that conversation on sunday about prem babies too-there is hope-
((((((hugs)))))))
catherine
xx

Oh Hayley.... sometimes life is such a bitch(:

I am thinking of you today and you will remain in my thoughts for as long as you need to.

((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))

Jean x.

Bless you,,x

Having a few good memories is worth a gold mine,

you carried it so well.

well done,,,,hope you're feeling better today,

Oh dear I am in tears now. I just KNEW your little hands were too cold to be normal....

Aww Hayley, you held such a hard cross to bear at a time when you needed it most, a sign of your own strength of charachter and one taught to you in those days gone by from lovely caring Aunts and cousins. Linda would be so proud of you.

My deepest heartfelt sympathies and condolences go out to you and to your aunt.

Also sending the little one prayers and positive thoughts, Bless him.

Colin

:((

Marion

So sorry to read this (((hugs))) to you

And thinking of little one, my son was a 30 weeker

Julie xx

Life can be so cruel Hayley.

Remember the good times you had with them all.
We know memories can be a Godsend and will never leave us

Mau (xx)

how sad special thoughts for you hayley
..........................
my grandson was 28weeker ....should see him now hes 12 and about 5ft , 3
..................rosexx...........

Sympathy to all the whole family circle,,,,,,

Good healthy wishes for the little baby,

hayley

you showed so much courage

on saturday

a true drama empress

the show must go on and it did

even with a broken heart

well done hayley putting others first

i am sure the baby will be ok

and bless linda

who will be looking down

so proudly at you

from her own golden star

i am glad to call you my friend

xxx

Hayley, that is such a nice story of your auntie and cousin Linda....
I felt the same about my fathers youngest sister who was only a few years older than me.

You have had quite a time of it Hayley and still managed to allow me and everyone else to *abuse* you! ;-0)


About the baby... my sister was smaller than that, she was the 'heaviest' of premature twins.

My sister is now an elderly lady, with 5 children and enough grandchildren to keep her on her toes!
So keep positive.
Deanna X

I am so sorry Hayley, how brave you've been holding on to that news.

Hold on to those precious memories of Linda.You shared such special times.

I hope all will be well with the little lad.

Gwyn

Hayley

its good you have those lovely memories you will always treasure them.

Hugs

d xx

Hayley,
What a strong person you have been so far.
Remember the memories of Linda and your Aunts family that you have when you are feeling low.
Take care,
Sue x

I can't think of the right words to say .x

((( Hugs )))