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Bit of a kick in the teeth really if what you are saying is those that have helped and couldn't find lacked plenty of experience

Linda - thanks for you prompt reply,but as I said above, people on here have tried to find her before for me with no luck. I don't want to put anyone to any trouble, that is why I asked where I was going wrong,and could someone point me in the right direction to look for myself. I know alot of people have access to sites that I do not, and know how to get the best from them. I hope I do not sound as if I am whinging.
If you are prepared to have a go at it for me, then thank you very much
Julia in Derbyshire

Who are we looking for??

Would some kind person(s), with plenty of experience, advise me as to where I am going wrong with my search for information on the last relative to be hatched,matched and despatched in my tree. Although I have had good people on here look for her, though unsuccessfully, I wonder where else I could look myself. I have used every permutation of her unusual name when looking on Ancestry and Family Search, and although her birth is recorded on Ancestry,and on the 1871 and 1881 census,and the rest of her siblings and parents, the trail goes dead at this point.
I recently had contact with the husband of a distant relative, who had done the family tree some years ago by paper trail rather than computer. In his notes, he had that she had never married, as told by the 'aunts'. Where have we heard that one before. However, that being true, why can't I find her on subsequent census or a death. If she did marry why can't I find a marriage, and a death.
Any helpful suggestions would be really appreciated, before total apathy sets in.
Julia in Derbyshire